Now, YDS is much more the typical baby and shows NONE of the signs of giftedness that my older son had at this age. I know it's early to worry about it but I'm having difficulty NOT worrying because I don't want him to feel overshadowed by his sibling. Anybody else experiencing something like this??
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That said I have one highly gifted (DD age 7) and my DS (age 9) is not gifted in the typical ways. How I deal with it is just encouraging DS in everything he wants to do and focusing on strengths. He knows his sister seems to be "good at everything" but he also knows that we don't value her more than him in any way.
I have three kids, and how giftedness looks is drastically different between all of them.
With a child that is not even 1, you simply can not say your child is not gifted.
YDS is much more the typical baby and shows NONE of the signs of giftedness that my older son had at this age. I know it's early to worry about it but I'm having difficulty NOT worrying because I don't want him to feel overshadowed by his sibling.
I think that as your younger son becomes more and more the person he is, you'll see all the ways in which he is wonderful and special. He's just keeping them a secret right now!
Life isn't all about being "gifted." Your baby is special and amazing and wonderful, whatever his IQ.
but everything has pros and cons
Mama to 3 awesome girls: DD1 born 2001, DD2 born 2002, DD3 born March 2011
On the surface, dd looks brighter. She displays her knowledge and talents for all to see. Ds looks pretty average on the surface. But when he does open up (to a select few), he's got some profound observations.
So, for now, enjoy your baby. Genetics are on his side and he's likely to be bright.
As long as you treat your kids as unique and special individuals no matter what their talents are they will be fine even if one end ups being more gifted than the other. I grew up as the above average but not gifted child between a profoundly gifted older brother and a moderately gifted younger brother. I have an amazing relationship with both of my brothers and we share a unique bond. Plus, I'll admit, I grew up pretty convinced that I was the one who got the good end of the equation even if they were smarter. I could clearly see that my brothers intelligence brought them just as much if not more disadvantages than it did advantages.
|Ds was (and still is) an observer. He learns by watching and reflecting on things. His sister is an active learner.|
|She didn't sit up on her own until she was 10 months old, didn't crawl until she was a year old, didn't really do much of ANYTHING until she was a year, actually. She just sat and watched (snip here because mine didn't cry as long as he was being held or moved, as he usually was)|
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My special needs child is also moderately gifted (still trying to figure out exactly how gifted and she's 13). She had multiple system delays but has an higher than average IQ.
My kids are very, very different people. We celebrate what they enjoy. They each have their own strengths. There are things that my SN child is better at than her sister -- like drawing and swimming. They are both really sweet wonderful people.
As far as "overshadowing," it's more of an issue in public places like school, not a home issue. I think that parenting really affects this. I think it's something parents need to be sensitive about, but I don't think it's hard to let both my kids know how wonderful they are.
but everything has pros and cons
One thing that is helpful is to work on not gushing over any child's achievement victory. Let the child own it but make sure all your children know that you are concerned about their character first and not about doing, winning, scoring. As parents we need to be concerned about the things the child can control.