Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: Wasilla, Alaska
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Thank you all. Jilly, you really struck a chord with me. She IS a very sensitive child, and has been VERY worried about my grief. Every time I break down, she runs to me and wants to know why I'm crying, and hugs and holds me. It breaks my heart that she's so worried about me... when I'm so worried about her.
She has had a couple of moments where she'll burst into tears say over a pizza topping not being uniform, and I will ask her "honey... is it really the pizza that you are upset about, or is it something else?" and then I remind her that it's okay to be very sad right now, and it's okay to express that emotion. When I've dove deep like that, she'll quietly say that she's sad about grandma. I remind her that it's okay... that we'll likely be very sad about grandma for quite some time, and that is OKAY.
I guess I just got really worried, because on most days, she's very sensitive and very emotional, yet when mom died, she shut down. The last month of my mom's life we used hospice... and I recall them saying that they had group sessions/counselors for up to a year after the death.... I'm going to check into them, for both of us. Being mom's nurse until the end really tore me to pieces, and I seriously feel like I'm dealing with PTSD in addition to standard grief.
: Karen, wife to my : Mad Scientist and mama to :Emma (10-21-03).
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