I think It depends. If kids wants to learn more, the advanced work doesn't mean stress. Otherwise, I prefer being happy/low stress.
"So, what we learned is that a happy, confidence-building school experience in the early grades can really set the stage for future academic achievements."
Elcie, that is exactly what we are praying will happen with ds too. Did you move your son because of the harder curriculum at the first school? What sort of extra-curricular supplementing did you do? Ds came to me upset last night, worried that the work at his new school is too easy for him. I as a mom am learning a very valuable lesson from this, that ds takes a lot of his cues about himself from me. Lately I had said to him, "do me a favor and let me know if the work gets too easy and you are bored." I really just need to let the situation unfold on its own without trying to micromanage it.
I am supposed to be working so I only skimmed the posts . . .
RE: cough-- my DD had one, too, to the point where she was on asthma meds. They did nothing. I did my own research, and found that it was probably a habit cough (like a tic). Mentioned this to the doctor, and he agreed with me. Once I explained what it was to DD, it went away! She was not doing it for attention, but it was just "habit" so it kind of made her cough more since she'd irritate her throat.
Anyway, I would say that my DD is not being challenged at school right now. She had skipped a grade, but I pulled her out to homeschool the past three years, and now she is back . . .but not skipped. HOWEVER, she is happy. She does sometimes groan that certain topics are taught only in high school when she wants them now, and asks if there will ever be a time where she is not ahead because she is tired of waiting for her level. (And yes, I think that time will come!) Overall, though, she likes her friends, likes the school "extras," likes her teachers, etc. so she gets something out of school. They don't get a lot of homework and she isn't involved in many after-school activities, so she has some time for her own interests.
Since we'd homeschooled, I gave the teachers samples of what she can do/what she can read, and her gifted teacher is going to work one-on-one with her now, so it did help. But again, DD finally likes school, so that is good enough for me!
2/02, 4/05, 2/07, 11/09, and EDD 12/25/11