My 7yo dd frequently struggles with anxiety, stress, and "feeling gloomy." The problem is that she understands and will ask questions about subjects she doesn't yet have the emotional resources to handle. I am just learning about giftedness, and she has a lot of the qualities of a gifted child. I am wondering if it is worth pursuing assessment to have her "diagnosed" as gifted. I hesitate because I think that gifted or not, she ultimately has to learn the same coping skills to work through her problems.
Has anyone had an experience where finding out their child was gifted gave them unique tools for their child's mental health? We homeschool, so the education aspect isn't as concerning for me.
Thank you for any thoughts, tips, and feedback. I am new to giftedness and child psychology :)
MeDH DS1 10/06 DD 08/10 DS2 10/12with SB and
Hi! I am new to this forum but saw your post and understand/was looking for others in this situation. My son has had a lot of emotional issues and I didn't know entirely what was the cause. We just had him tested b/c we thought he may have a learning disability. He is an extreme perfectionist and it is hard to get him to write sentences (he's in 3rd grade). So we didn't know if there was more going on.
The testing did help us (and it helped that the school district did it so we didn't have to pay out of pocket for it). We learned he didn't have a learning disability but that he is incredibly gifted. So now I am understanding that his strengths and weaknesses are essentially two sides of the same coin.
I found this book incredibly powerful and helped me understand him so much more & had great advice: Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students by Christine Fonseca.
I am so glad to have found this forum and appreciate all the support!
I'd say if the testing is reasonable for you to make happen, I would do it. I feel so much more aware of where to focus my energy to help him now that the learning disabilities have been ruled out.
The strategies to support a child who is experiencing sensitivity, anxiety and gloominess are the same whether gifted or not, so looking for materials on CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) and anxiety management will lead to good information and strategies that you can adapt to your particular child.
These are all good:
(these are both by Chansky and are good.
Helping Your Anxious Child: A Step-by-Step Guide for Parents by Ronald Rapee PhD,
I like this series:
The Fonseca book is good.
My son liked this book at that age, but pre-read as it could give her ideas:
Mom to a teenager and a middle schooler.