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#1 of 7 Old 07-13-2014, 09:36 PM - Thread Starter
 
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When grade skippers go to college...

DD 17 heads to college next month. She won't be 18 until next year. She forwards me an email from the school with a form to sign allowing her to leave campus for either college activities or leisure. I tease that I'm not going to sign the papers and she responds with "but mom, I just have to go to Hogsmeeeeeede!!!"

Of course, it's not just grade skippers. I'm sure there are plenty of kids from states with fall cut-offs starting at 17. It just never occurred to me that she'd need to get adult permission to leave the campus at college!

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DD 17 heads to college next month. She won't be 18 until next year. She forwards me an email from the school with a form to sign allowing her to leave campus for either college activities or leisure. I tease that I'm not going to sign the papers and she responds with "but mom, I just have to go to Hogsmeeeeeede!!!"

Of course, it's not just grade skippers. I'm sure there are plenty of kids from states with fall cut-offs starting at 17. It just never occurred to me that she'd need to get adult permission to leave the campus at college!
I do love her response.

It will be interesting to see how this is handled when my own child heads of to college in 5-6 years.
Though he's considered a gap year or a year as a foreign exchange student so it may not end up being an issue for him. 5-6 years is still a long ways away.

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I find this really weird too. Is it normal for colleges in the US to assume a sort of supervisory function over their students? In Canada that's not the case: residence living here is optional and often has very limited availability, and typically operates mostly like an on-campus apartment -- possibly with cafeteria food provided, but often not. Supervision and rules are limited to simple community-harmony rules about noise and such. Heck our high schools are in some ways less controlling than what your dd is experiencing: students freely leave the school grounds at lunch or during breaks or whenever without parental permission. Surely she enjoyed more unfettered freedom while at high school and community college? Must feel a little odd to her.

Anyway, I love the Hogsmeade quip!

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Is it a private college?

I can't imagine anyone trying to enforce a rule like that at our state university. The campus is too open.

So far, the only forms I've had to sign for my DD were waivers for archaeological field study and archaeological survey courses. She isn't legally old enough to sign a legal waiver.

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I'm sure it's all about liability. It's a private school of about 3K and they do a lot in their community as well as send their teams, clubs and performance groups all over the world. There are classes where they are required to go out into the community. They can't really enforce the leisure things but they could stop her from leaving the state with the quidditch team or not letting her travel with a performance group.

I didn't have to sign anything for DD when she was at the local community college during high school. DS is going to high school where they have a multitude of off-campus lunch options and how many kids take public transit to get there and back (it's a charter so no school buses.) Didn't come up there. Maybe this college had an issue in the past and someone tried to sue them or something. That's usually when these legal forms that seem silly come into the picture.

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Just tell her to stay away from the butterbeer!
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My dd is 17 and headed off to college. On the printed materials sent to parents, the college said that they treat their 17 year-olds like their 18-year olds. They might as well.....they are all freshmen. I have had to sign a couple of papers because she's 17, though.

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