Toddler - typical, gifted, or does it matter?
Hi, I have an adorable two year old daughter. (She is just shy of 25 months). I'm trying to get a sense of whether her development is normal, a little advanced, or a lot advanced. I know in many ways it doesn't really matter at this age, but I'm a planner and it's helpful for me to think about. I was a gifted kid and started needing special work at school by first grade (I read at a middle school level so the teacher had a separate curriculum for me). My mom doesn't have much memory of what I was like at my daughter's age, and I guess I'm just trying to get some sense of what to expect.
In terms of early milestones, she was pretty much on target. She had very good receptive language at 1 but only a few words (likely due to having only 2 half teeth and a strong pacifier habit). She walked 3 days past her first birthday. Her language picked up between 1 and 2 but around 18-20 months I would say was still on the high side of normal.
In the last couple of months, however, her language has gone crazy. She speaks in complete, grammatically correct sentences with multiple pronouns. Examples: after I told her to give her father some privacy in the restroom ("I will leave daddy alone and let him use the toilet by himself"). After I told her we didn't have oatmeal which she had requested for dinner ("I want to go buy some oatmeal.") Other typical conversations ("I want to go to the grocery store because the cashier gives me stickers"; "mommy, come over to the table and put your purse down right there"; "I want you to sit on the floor next to me and play with my magna-tiles"; "mommy, you are driving your car to work?")
None of these are Einstein-level, but neither do they seem typical of her peers. She has quite a long attention span and can play with her toys (especially the magna-tiles or her dolls) for long periods of time. She loves jigsaw puzzles but can only complete about a six-piece puzzle on her own. She has memorized several short books and "reads" them to us, and knows at least 20-30 songs (in tune with complete lyrics).
In other ways, however, she seems completely typical. Her gross and fine motor skills are largely normal (she was an early block stacker but is only just figuring out how to draw a circle); she can count (to twenty but generally only goes to ten) but is not consistent with counting objects above 2 or 3; she can sing the alphabet but only recognizes the first letter of her own name.
I don't want to ask my local friends if her behavior seems typical or advanced because it seems like I'm comparing kids or bragging, when really I just want to have a sense of what's normal and what's not. Thanks in advance for your thoughts.