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|To me, bragging is prideful exaggeration of the truth with the intent to make someone else feel inferior, and of course that's wrong. However, is carefully scrupulous truth-telling about your child's activities "bragging" in any sense, especially when your intent is to share some achievement of theirs you think is really cool?|
|My dd is 28 months and her giftedness became obvious when she recently started pulling pranks and making up jokes (puns).|
|A friend of mine who is a school principal tells me that she counts the number of minutes at the new parent night for pre-k kids until someone asks the question "How will you challenge my gifted child' She says that she has never made it more than 10 minutes.|
Originally Posted by eilonwy
Maya, this is a support thread. It is not here for people to log on and tell us that our children probably aren't gifted. If we didn't think we belonged here, we wouldn't post.
|Anyway, I remember a few people talking about some early reader books they refered to as "the Bob books". Is anyone here familiar with these? Can you give me more info? Any other recommendations would be appreciated.|
Originally Posted by supervee
btw, I feel a bit presumptuous posting on a gifted support thread; I mean, he's 3, y'know? (not to say you all are, just my own feelings!) but it is nice to talk about the littleuns and their reading adventures without being embarassed or outed as a flashcard mom--not.
Originally Posted by Britishmum
Maya, I think most parents here couldnt care less if their children test now or later as 'gifted' or any other label. What matters is the here and now, and that it can be tough dealing with children who are so advanced at such a young age. Maybe for some of our children it will even out, but that doesnt alter things right now. It's not a question of bragging, it's just hard sometimes that every other parent can talk openly about their child, except you.
As a parent, when my child starts kindergarten, you can be sure I will mention her abilities to the teacher. If she can read now, in two years time, yes, I will want to know what that teacher will do to stretch her! And if she can do maths at a kindergarten level now, heck, yes, I will want to know what that teacher will do with her in maths when she starts in K in two years time.
I have a friend who didnt mention her dd's abilities when teh child started school (she was a fluent reader at three) and for weeks the child was sent home with earliest reading books, with minimal words, until the teacher called my friend in, highly embarrassed, becasue she'd realised that the child could already read.
Of course, my friend heard all the stuff about things evening out in the end, blah blah. And guess what? At the end of 5th grade, her daugther was one of handful of children in the whole of the UK to achieve the highest level in English in her tests. And she did it with ease. So for her, it didnt even out. And her mother should have asked that kindergarten teacher before her child started school what she was going to do to stretch her daughter.
If things were going to even out, they woudl do so in time, but to have a fluent reader wasting time being taught their abcs is wrong, whatever lies in the future. It's not a questioin of bragging. If it's right for a parent to tell a teacher that she's concerned how her child's needs will be met if he has a speech delay, iti is equally right to ask this question if the child is advanced in any sphere. As a teacher, I would want to know. I think in some cases teachers feel threatened by this sort of question, and their response is therefore defensive, to the detriment of the child. I say this having worked in education for years. It is an attitude you come across every so often, the 'want to prove the parent wrong' attitude. It's sad, as parents tend to know better than anyone what their children can do.