My DD will be 4 on Sept 1. We recently took her into our family doc seeking advice on getting an evaluation for her (she has been showing signs of SID since before she was 12 months....and has been showing signs of possible bi-polar or ASD since around 12 months) Anyway, when we talked to him briefly about what is going on with her, he told us that while he is not qualified in behavioral disorders, he feels that there is no way that she can possibly be austistic because of her verbal skills.
Background.....she started talking at 7 months. Was in sentences between 15-18 months. Will correct you if you are using bad grammer. Can remember whole pieces of movies after hearing them once. Can read a few simple words...possibly more. Being facetious, I asked her the other day if she could read after she had correctly identified four words consistantly. She just laughed at me and said "Of course". She could have been joking and could have been serious for all I can tell. She is starting to spontaneously spell even though she has no real interest in learning what the letters look like (she could recite the ABCs by 18-20 months....just started working with identifying around 3 though because of lack of interest on her part) So I don't honestly know if she can identify them or not.
Math skills....she started counting to 15 before her second birthday. Can now count to 20 but has no interest in learning higher than that. She knew all her shapes and colors before 2 yrs.....even some of the more exotic ones (like identifying chartruese) She can do simple addition and subtraction but quickly gets bored with numbers. Yet, she stumbles over things like her age. Can recite her phone number and knows the numbers in her address but can't tell you how old she is without help.
Her memory skills are amazing but her social skills are extremely lacking. She not only is obsessed with death and what happens when we die (why do we die, where do we go, why do we have to die) but she is also not above threatening to kill us when she doesn't get her own way. And not just saying that she is going to kill you, but goes into accurate descriptions of what she will do, what will happen to you and the fact that death is final.
In short, I am not sure if she is "gifted" but I do know that she operates much higher than her peer group. So much so that she will not make friends with children her own age because "they don't understand her" and can't "follow the rules of play".
Just trying to see where she really belongs.