Or is it harder to make friends?
I'm in a bit of a funk this week. My dd is three and very gifted. She talked and sat at four months, taught herself to read by one. Colors and counting way before one. I don't know when she figured out fractions and how to add and subtract but I learned she could do these things
a couple weeks back. She speaks English, Spanish and French and never went through a period of confusion the way kids who learn more than one language at a time are supposed to go through.
Redirecting almost never works with her. Like, in a thread the other day, a mama talked about how she would walk by her local park, check out if a certain aggressive child was there and if he was, she would redirect her dd to hug a tree or go play another game. This is such a great idea. It has NEVER worked with my child. She's always known EXACTLY what she wants and won't be distracted or even bribed out of it. By the time she was one I could say, "Do you want the red or the yellow shirt?" And she would say, "Actually, mama, I want the kitty shirt that is in the laundry."
I feel like no one quite understands this, or my child.
Some things are easier. Like her extremely generous Auntie, dd and I all went out to a bookstore last week. Her Auntie usually buys her a ridiculous ammount of books and toys. And my dd has been waiting three months to show her Auntie this particular toy--an expensive basket full of stuffed kitties. She was so excited and couldn't wait. And she's right--under normal circumstances her Auntie would have bought those suckers for her right away. But I knew her Auntie was broke so I told dd, "Auntie doesn't have any money today. Please don't ask her for anything--it's make her feel bad because she likes to buy you things." My dd totally got it and I'm thinking a lot of little kids wouldn't.
But then, on other occasions, she is so steadfast about what she wants. Other kids can be redirected and the adults seem to think there is something wrong with me or dd because she's a girl who knows what she want.
And she has a mind like a steel trap. She loves little animals and we must have hundreds. She remembers who got her every single one and even where they got it.
Our bilingual storytime librarian has been telling me she's gifted forever. And also that I get to frustrated when she acts her age. But, really, how is it that she can read the newspaper but then turn around at put a plastic bag from the farmer's market on her head?
Reading about your kids is the first I've heard of kids who act the way she did. It was reassuring, actually, to see, oh, other tiny babies spoke in complete sentences. Or became obsessed with things like the Space Needle. But I've long since stopped talking about anything new she can do.I stopped right after she turned two and I tried to tell the teacher at her art studio how I had found that dd had written her name beautifully with chalk on the bottom steps of our house. (There is an actual sort of cute story. DD and I were waiting to go off with friends and DD was writing what I thought was just the first letter of her name. She started doing that at one and loved to tag everything with her initial. Then I noticed she was saying her entire name and pointing to what she had written. I meant to look but then our friends came and we left. That night when I was bathing her, my dh came home and said, hey can you talk the video camera and use the night vision shot to get what she wrote. I'd like to see what it looks like. Dh comes back a few minutes later and says, "I just took a picture of both of them because I wasn't sure which when she'd written and which one you'd written." Get it? Yeah, the art teacher just thought I was ...I'm not sure what. I big old liar, I think.) People just act like we're weird or, at best, they don't know what to do with the three-year-old spelling out words for fun.
We're happy, my little family. And my dd is really social--I have no idea where she gets this. We have friends but no one really close. To our crunchy friends we're odd. To our mainstream friends we're odd.Have any of you ever felt this way?