I have been lurking in this forum over the past week or so, and have been very fascinated with what I've read. Essentially, I'm looking for some answers. I have an 8-month-old daughter whom I love more than anything in this world, but I (and others) have noticed that she's definitely different from any baby I've ever known and more difficult. Do you mind if I go into details? From day 1, she has been super high needs: major all-night colic, no quiet-alertness as a newborn (if she was awake she was unsettled), very sound sensitive (especially during sleep), disliked being put down at all (and she also has disliked every sling I own), etc. I hardly remember the first three months of her life because they were so intense. Things have gotten better since the colic went away when she was 10 weeks old but life with her still can be described as INTENSE. She has to have constant interaction: someone has to play WITH her all the time (she refuses to play by herself). She loves to watch people and has for months now--it's like she's studying them, noticing their every move. She doesn't really go much for toys but loves taking things apart, seeing how they work, watching activity (which is getting difficult because now she wants to do everything that she sees--not a good thing when mom is cooking, etc.). At four months old, she clearly said Walmart (I know, very bad institution, but we were discussing going there for an afternoon daytrip since it's right down the street from where we live). She also said, "I wanna go out," "mama," and "grandma" at four months old. Since then, she hasn't experimented with words or consonants but just randomly vocalizes vowels and aspirates "h"s (not to mention, blowing raspberries all the time). She especially loves other children, not babies but big kids. We go to the park a lot and she insists that we go to the big kid playground area. Once we're there, she waves her arms violently when she gets excited at what the big kids are doing. She doesn't seem to like swinging or even going down slides with mommy, as it is almost an obsession for her to watch the big kids playing and to be amongst them. For the past few months, she has been obsessed with water, holes, wires, and screws, especially. She is the only baby (or kid, for that matter) who MUST examine the bolts on the teeter-totter and the chains on the swings before going home. Her memory is also fantastic: Since she was really young she has noticed when something new (no matter how small) appears at home or if something familiar is taken away. Other moms look at me like I'm nuts when I tell them these things. They must think I'm incompetent, too, while they stand holding their complacent children on their hips and I'm doing everything in my power to keep a grip on mine, who is twisting and turning and wanting to go, go, go. My child has never in her life been content to just hold her and stand still, and you can totally forget about the hip-carry thing. Since she was a month old she HAS to face forward, which is not easy now that she weighs 20 pounds. She is also incredibly energetic and extremely strong-willed. Just this past weekend she started walking (with us holding her under her arms for assistance), which in some ways is a relief because now she can go where she wants to, which currently is either the kitchen or bathroom sink (her favorite places). She has shown no interest in crawling whatsoever but has been standing, almost every minute of the day, since she was 6 weeks old.
I'm sorry for being so long-winded. I just really would like to know if any of you had similar experiences with your gifted children. I hope I'm not alone here because I just can't related to the moms I'm around in real life and mommyhood is starting to get really lonely. My parents, thankfully, help me out every day with our daughter (I'm a stay-at-home mom) because she takes so much time and energy that I can't eat, get a shower, or do anything for myself or the house at all without someone to entertain her. As I said, I love my daughter dearly and I'm trying desperately to better understand her.
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