Originally Posted by clipfish
I was kind of shocked/happy/relieved to see your post, to say the least. (: This has been a hard few weeks at our house.
You can't imagine how consoled I am to hear that I'm not the only one...though i really won't wish it on anyone
... same thing - seeing himself as THE rule-enforcer and ds' teacher mentioned anger management too!! It's so out of the blue to see and hear of this rage that's coming out from the once-upon-a-time peace corp member, kwim?
perhaps as carmel23 and straighthaircurly said, it's part of the growing up transition, sob sob.
He's still home this week, and he's much much calmer. No tantrums, much kinder to his little brother, what a blessing! I'm so reluctant to send him back to school now and keep making excuses - oh he's got a cough, oh, he's tired today...
I've been trying to wheedle informatoin out of him to pinpoint issues that need to be worked on, and so far, we've talked quite a bit about bullying versus self-defence, authority (and who owns it), and also getting him to understand that not everyone thinks the same way, or grows up with the same rules. I can see he's sleeping on them.
I'm also reminding myself that how I deal with all these will be an example of anger-management (esp when he's screaming on the floor or doing a death-roll with the baby). I love what his kindergarten principal wrote on the public board a few weeks ago - A quiet voice is the greatest display of power. So, deep breath!
yes, I think he is having some of those difficulties. I'd love to hve your son's teachers!
Just today, we visited a cousin (his age) E. E saw ds drawing and asked for a couple. But after ds did a drawing for him, E took it and tore it into two!! Ouch! (ds draws copiously everyday and we have to keep almost every single one because he knows if anything is missing) The look on ds' face...and he told me that the boy who picks on him in school is like this cousin of his.
He has no problem sharing physical spaces, but he(like me) is very sensitive to sound and he does much better with regular quiet hours. A pastor who once visited us commented if our neighbourhood isn't too quiet/lonely!
interestingly, i asked him earlier today if he misses school. His answer: yes, but he has too much work (ie his building projects and drawing) to do, he's too busy to go to school...!?