HI, my name is Laura and I had my third child in Nov. Georgie was born at 35 weeks, 1 day and was 6 pounds, 8 ounces. Even though he was HUGE, lol, he had major breathing problems requiring a vent and surfactant. We spent 9 days in the NICU before going home. At home, he contuined to lose weight, requiring lots of bfing and supplementing. He finally began to gain weight around his due date of 12/24 and is now 9 weeks and nine pounds!
This was totally unexpected, as my other two were 37 weeks and 40 weeks. My 37 weeker was my smallest at not quite six pounds; Georgie would have been nine pounds had he gone to term. I am quite proud of myself for that!
I'm lucky- my third kid, so I had lots of support and meals and things lined up. I half miss the NICU and all the friends we made there; some of my happiest memories in an otherwise dark time were sitting in the parents lounge talking to the other parents. I realized there's a great need for pumping, preemie, etc support up there. I hope to create a group that would give support to those parents.
I had to reevulate alot of what I do for some aspects of parenting. I divided my time between my older two and the hospital, which was hard because you always miss the kid you aren't with. I had to decide how long and how hard I try to bf when he wasn't gaining weight. I had a natural childbirth but with every intervention (sans pain meds) that I never had before: IV, constant monitoring, pit and abx. That was hard b/c the ultimate goal of birth is a healthy baby and mom- I compromised on everything and still didn't get a healthy baby out of the deal. (Then. He is now.)
I'm glad to find this group to talk to other preemie parents and process what happened. At the end of the day, I'm just happy Georgie is home!