I have a few more:
Dont send me a sympathy card, thoughts and prayers cards and dont give me the standard BS answer "If there is anything I can do for you, call me." Send me a blue or pink card and say I am thinking of you and your beautiful baby.
Do do stuff that you know I need or want done. I still need a gallon of milk, eggs, stuff for dd1, etc. All the stuff you pick up at the grocery, we need too. If you want to drop it off, please do!
Dont keep pestering me for answers. Dont say- But you said she was doing good. Guess what, that all can change in a second which is why they call it an emotional rollar coaster.
Dont tell me, what does your dh or you have to visit EVERYDAY? Well yes, its our child and we will and we dont need to actaully answer that...
If you just found out and your an aquaintance from church, school etc dont drill me how horrible it is. This happened to me- a couple who went thru out baptism class called me one afternoon as I just walked in. And was going on and on how horrible it was for us. I was on a high for doing Kangaroo care that week for the first time and this weirdo was telling me how "awful and horrible what happened to us". After a minute, I cut her off and said can you call me another time???
"The true joy of life is the trip. The station is only a dream. It constantly out distances us."