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#1 of 100 Old 04-21-2007, 03:58 AM - Thread Starter
 
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1. You use strange initials (C-PAP, CCs, NICU, NG) when discussing your child.

2. You actually remember how many CCs make up an ounce.

3. You count his weight in grams.

4. The skin on your hands is peeling from washing so often!

5. You hesitate when someone asks his/her age, but you know exactly how much he/she weighs!

6. The answer to "How old is your baby?" is a story 30 minutes long!

7. When someone asks his birthday, you reply, "Which one?"

8. You start to understand some of the things they say on ER!

9. You turn into Kung-Fu Mom when someone tries to touch your baby.

10. You attempt to measure just how much spit-up he/she just had before you clean it up!

11. You know how much he weighs before putting him on the scale at the doctor's office

12. You cry at Maternity Ward and get mad at Baby Story.

13. You see a 7lb newborn and say "Wow! She's so BIG!"

14. When someone says how tiny your baby is, you argue that he is huge -- and to demonstrate, you whip out pictures of him in NICU.

15. You do a health check on people when they come to your house to visit.

16. You make people wash their hands before going near your child.

17. You want to scream when someone says that she just wants to have this baby now - at week 28, 32, or 34.

18. You are so amazed when someone actually tells you your baby is big for his age!

19. You tried to find a place to buy newborn size diapers in bulk.

20. You called half your relatives when the baby grew out of their first pair of pajamas!

21. You never take your child for granted.

22. You worry about RSV season and it is still weeks away . . .

23. You donate his/her tiny clothes to the NICU and marvel that they seem so small - when they were too darn large!

24. Your son gets a simple cold and her doc sees him within the hour!

25. People say, "He CAN'T be __ old...he's too little!"

26. It has taken them 5 months to grow INTO newborn clothes!

27. You pick up 2 pounds of ground beef and think that your baby was born at the same weight

28. You know about oxygen tanks and regulators more than the company supplying it to the airplanes
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You've lied about your child's age because you just weren't in the mood to explain why your 17 month old looks like a 6 month old to a complete stranger AGAIN.
(I just did this yesteday. : )

Never jump into a pile of leaves with a wet sucker. - Linus
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so true, soooo true. (and still very vivid after almost 7 years)


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You hit your annual out of pocket max on your medical insurance and its March 1st

You are on a first name basis with most of the staff for many years to come

People who are introduced to you are told "SHE is the 1 lb 12 oz baby I was telling you about"

PDA does not mean Personal Digital Asst anymore and never will again

certain soap smells make you want to puke

You have a diaper that is smaller than the palm of your hand stored in his/her personal baby stuff and it at one time fit them and loosely!

You're excited when this child outgrows clothing

You're excited when they meet a milestone before or on the corrected age or if they just do it.

You have heard every version of elevator music you can think of from being on hold to the nurse's station at 5am while they get your nurse for that shift.

You know all the shortcuts and the layout of the parking lot/garage of the hospital.

You know the parking attendants by first name

You hate scales, now instead of not gaining weight, you have a family member who has to.

You know how to freeze 5 ccs individually.

You have made more baked goods for the nicu staff than you ever made for yourself or anyone else in your life.

Your nicu parent bracelet is now a badge of honor. One parent in our nicu joked it was his free drinks tickets and used to say to new parents- didnt you hear free drinks for all nicu parents!

You can convert grams, kilos, etc

You can rattle off abbvs with the best of them!

You dont have to sit in waiting rooms because your baby is a premature baby. You get right in

You know what house arrest would be like.

O2 tanks can be part of decor- really!



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You jump, cringe, have a beating heart when alarms go off anywhere
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Your at an appliance store and they try to sell you anything from FisherPycall. (they also make washer and dryers)

you hate stories about preemies in shoeboxes near the fire etc

You hate medical supply companies esp their customer service.

"The true joy of life is the trip. The station is only a dream. It constantly out distances us."
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A agree Amy. I was in the ER the other day since Em pulled her feeding tube out and I couldn't get it back in. The ER doc said Ah, we finally meet at last. It's like Emma is a legend around there, everyone at her hospital and the surrounding hospitsals have heard about her. IT's crazy. It's nice in a way that she gets quick specialized care though.
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You have lengthy discussions on line about ventilatory support :
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LOL, sarah!
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How about "when you want to blow up your hospital-grade breast pump"?

Although, yes, I am ultimately very greatful for that piece of machinery . . .
I hated it, hated it, hated it!
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when your 2 year old tells your aunt to use pooell (purell) before she touches the baby.
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I could not WAIT to pass on my pump.

"The true joy of life is the trip. The station is only a dream. It constantly out distances us."
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And DH's contribution

You jump, cringe, have a beating heart when alarms go off anywhere
I had that happen today. I was sitting there resting at the zoo holding Adara...and someone's phone rang and it sounded JUST like the alarm.

I jumped so high that the person whose phone rang apologized for "scaring" me. Little did he know.

I had NEVER heard a phone ringtone like that...and I honestly hope I NEVER do again!!

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My contributions...

Your babies' memory box includes a teeny tiny BP cuff with a bunny on it.

Whenever your pregnant friends talk about having a lot of "Braxton Hicks" contractions, you get nervous and suggest they call their OB.

You don't have any "going home from the hospital" pictures because you were so damn glad to get out of there you basically grabbed the baby and ran.

You can tell which of your identical twins is which in their early photos at home mostly because of the nasal cannula on one of them.

Betsy, mama to beautiful, strong MZ twins Lillian and Kate, born 11 weeks early on January 10, 2006.
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You know you're a NICU parent when you look at nicu pictures and memerabilia while your baby/babies are IN the NICU everyday - cant get ENOUGH of it!, but a few months after they come home you cant even glance without crying.
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~If you've ever had the NICU number on your speed dial.

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certain soap smells make you want to puke
Dh picked up a different laundry soap the other week. No biggie, whatevers on sale, right? But after the laundry was done, my clothes, me all of it smelled just like the nicu. The gowns they put on you; your baby; that smell that just doesnt leave the inside of your nose. I was anxious all day. That smell just brings back waaaay to many memories.


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OMG! This JUST happened to me, but you know you're a preemie parent when the insurance company calls and asks how your baby is doing!
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OMG! This JUST happened to me, but you know you're a preemie parent when the insurance company calls and asks how your baby is doing!

I always hated that. The people always seemed to care but I felt like they were calling to see how huge a bill my baby was racking up.

And along those lines I know exactly how to file an appeal with my insurance company. I was amazed at how many charges came through as out of network even though we were supposedly at an in network hospital.

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You don't have any "going home from the hospital" pictures because you were so damn glad to get out of there you basically grabbed the baby and ran.
omg, I thought this was just us!

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omg, I thought this was just us!
My one photo was blurry, we were out of there so fast.
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My one photo was blurry, we were out of there so fast.
We have two. One of which is because DH took forever to get the car. :

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I had the nicu in my cell phone. I put it in while in my hospital bed recovering from my c section 2 hours earlier

HEre is another you know your a nicu parent:

Tonight, I was making rice and a year ago I made this rice for a nicu dinner party we had. We had 3 other couples come over since one was stranded here from Ohio and they wanted to just be normal. The weather and everything was the same as tonight. As I am making the rice, an anxiousness came over me, like I had to go to Loyola tonight to visit and then I picked up the phone to call them- my reverie was interupted by Maggie screeching and LOL....

anyone else ever have this??

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every june when the day is overcast - yeah, I get exactly like that.


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We have two. One of which is because DH took forever to get the car. :
Tom still reminds me that I got : with him over taking so long to get the car. I was SURE they were going to try stop us from leaving!!

I sighed in relief when we finally got on the road and said "they didn't stop us we're really going home already!!"

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You cry when the gas station attendant says, "isn't she big for 9 months?"

You cry for joy when the neo tells you she's completely caught up, developmentally and physically, 1-2 years ahead of schedule.

The security guards in the hospital still recognize you, and you've been out of the NICE for almost a year.

When looking at nursing schools, you almost immediately shoot down the one that is associated with your baby's hospital of birth...until you realize that only leaves you with one school in your area to choose from.

Her first birthday is spent suffering anxiety attacks, and sobbing every time you look at her, because you're having flashbacks.

Your ped (who did a NICU rotation and specialized in 30wkrs) hugs you when he has to tell you that your FT, totally healthy baby contracted RSV.

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Her first birthday is spent suffering anxiety attacks, and sobbing every time you look at her, because you're having flashbacks.

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We had Chicken and Dumplings on MAggie's first bday because I took it out that afternoon of her birth from the freezer since I had a late Dr's appt. DH didnt get home until the next day to see defrosted and smelly chicken & dumplings on the counter. So I made it on her bday since we couldnt have it the day we planned to.

When I put on of those teeny tiny diapers in my scrapbook, I took the stuffin out- it was literally a piece of of 2 x 2 gauze. or depending on how you see it.

my book has Maggie's name in a roller coaster fashion. Also has the bracelets we wore in the nicu, her gerber sleeper, and I think leads too.

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We have two. One of which is because DH took forever to get the car. :

You've got more photos than I do then. I didn't even have my camera with me the day my twins came home so no pics there. I had to call dh to bring the second carseat because I only had 1 and didn't know they were coming home. I didn't even think camera. I was too worried they were going to change their mind about discharging them. I have 1 photo of Lydie at the hospital the day she came home and the only reason I remembered to snap a picture was because they made her redo the carseat test when I got there to pick her up and I had to wait an hour for that.

I'm really not into pictures though. I hate looking at NICU pics and I didn't take very many. I didn't save any blood pressure cuffs, canulas, etc either. I do however have every single hat worn by all 3 of my preemies in the NICU.

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I actually do wish we had pics now from their homecomings. At the time I had a weird aversion to it, I don't know why - we have hundreds of NICU photos but none of them coming home. I don't even remember what they wore - whatever the nurses dressed them in that day, I guess.

I did have one fun moment leaving with Kate (who came home 2 days after Lilly). I was sitting in a wheelchair (9 weeks post c-section, which is funny to me, but it's hospital policy) and holding Kate, and going down the front hallway we passed a couple we became good friends with in the NICU. The husband held out his arm and slapped my hand as if I were a marathon runner in the home stretch. Which, I suppose, I kind of was!

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oh i love this thread! i'm so glad to know i'm not the only one that saves stuff

ohh, this is gonna make a great spin off thread
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