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#91 of 99 Old 07-28-2006, 04:35 PM
 
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That is so sad. My second dd went into the NICU a few days after her birth and stayed for 2 and 1/2 days. I didn't notice screaming and crying but a definate lack of parents and, I hate to say this and hope it is not true in all hospitals, but I blame mostly the staff. I was encouraged to leave and get some rest and blah blah blah. I know I left my poor baby too much; I should not have left her side even for a moment, but I was exhausted and very open to suggestion. Anyway, I was there most of the daytime except to go eat and there was one other mama that came every day. The rest of the babies (about 5 of them I could see) I never saw the parents. It is just a sad situation. I am sorry you had to see that.
There was also a big-time lack of parents in ours. Very few stayed regularly and often they would come and go very quickly. There were a couple that called and asked about their babes. I didn't feel pressured to leave. There was only once that the nurse told me to go rest. It was the first Friday night I was home and I was still sore and hacking from my cold and dh pushed me 1 1/2 miles in a wheelchair to see the girls because it was Shabbat already. (We're observant Jews) and the nurse was telling me to go rest because I wasn't 100% better and that I could easily catch something again and if I was sick, I wouldn't be able to spend as much time with the girls. Plus it was midnight and they were asleep and wouldn't be up to eat for 3 hours. (They were still in the needing to woken to eat stage.)

I do know that there were 2 babes that I heard crying a lot. One in our bay and one in the next bay. DH asked about the one i our bay and we were told that he was in a lot of pain but they couldn't give him more medications and there was a reason he couldn't be picked up. I can't remember why. But often the nurses would be there talking and singing to him. Sadly, he was one of the babes whose parents I only saw once. :

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Why in your NICU do you bottle-feed instead of tube feed in breastfeeding infants?
I know this question wasn't directed at me, but I wanted to comment that we tube fed initially and then bottlefed because ds kept pulling his tube out. The ng tube, the og tube, you name it, he hated it.

He loved nippling all his feeds.

Since I was there 7 a.m. to 7 p.m., he did all his daytime feeds with me and his nighttime feeds with a bottle and never had a problem transitioning at all.

For us, we had to prioritize our concerns and the bottle just wasn't one of them.

As for not seeing other parents around, you never know what their situations are. Maybe they have other children, maybe they have to work, maybe they live 60 miles away. Don't judge if you don't know; just be thankful you were able to make the sacrifices you could to be with your little ones.

And I'm glad the nurses told me to stay home one day. Like many of you, I couldn't recover from my crash c/s fully b/c I spent every day travelling an hour each way and 12 hours in the NICU. Finally figured out that while my baby needed me in the NICU, he was going to need me much more when he was home so I'd better recover so I could be there fully when he got home.

Just my $.02...

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We are thinking of you. This time is the hardest--keep your chin up and do whatever you have to do to take care of YOU. I cannot emphasize this enough...

As for this thread, it's really old--don't pay any attention to the poster making the inflammatory comments...
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As for not seeing other parents around, you never know what their situations are. Maybe they have other children, maybe they have to work, maybe they live 60 miles away. Don't judge if you don't know; just be thankful you were able to make the sacrifices you could to be with your little ones.
I was just thinking I rarely see other parents... but then again, we usually go at night, when DH is home from work. We eat dinner & then make the hour + drive down to see Elora.
I bet all the parents that are there all day long think no one loves the poor baby in isolation LOL

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I know that some parents came at odd hours. One father would come at 4 am before he went to work at 7am. I saw him on the log daily FOR 3 MOS!!

He had to work to have the benifits to pay the nicu stay and make a living.

My dh went back to work the Tues after Maggie was born. I sent him. He needed the distraction. I would have loved to be w her 24/7 but she was at another hospital and I had to recover from her emrgency deliver. A c section after she stuck her foot in the birth canel and caused me to dilate.

She would have never survived room ing . She was on the vent within minutes of coming out. I thank God everyday that we have her and I can NAK while posting.

I hope this thread dosent get bumpd again.

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I know this question wasn't directed at me, but I wanted to comment that we tube fed initially and then bottlefed because ds kept pulling his tube out. The ng tube, the og tube, you name it, he hated it.

He loved nippling all his feeds.
Thanks for the memory, that just reminded me of how my DS would always pull his tube. I've got a pic of him with his little fist wrapped around his vent tube, too.

I remember there was one micro-preemie in the "feed and grow nursery" (one step up from the NICU and one step below going home), his parents were teenagers but they were still never there. Maybe a couple of times a week. And it was summer so there was no school. I feel bad for judging but in this case I can't help it. Maybe they both worked full-time (though I know they lived in the same town or within close driving distance as the hospital, her parents both worked there), maybe they were all NICU'd out after 11 weeks, I don't know, but I remember at the time wondering why that poor baby's parents weren't there more often. That's bad of me, I know. I don't really remember any babies that never got any visitors. There was one little guy who was full-term but had been transferred from Chicago to have open heart surgery, and his parents weren't there a whole lot but they had 2 or 3 other kids to take care of. The nurses always held him, though, especially since he was a crier. I always felt for the parents with older children or the people who lived too close to stay at RMDH but too far to make the trip frequently. Adam is my first so I was able to spend 12+ hours a day at the hospital with him as I was on leave from work, staying at the RMDH 4 blocks away, and had no one else to attend to (which also explains my confusion about the bottles when breastfeeding ).

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lived too close to stay at RMDH
We have a 'hospitality house' and they go on and on about how we can stay there... only whenever we've tried, it's full. We wanted to stay for both her surgeries since it's across the street from the hospital, but ended up getting a hotel so we could avoid the morning traffic & get there on time for her early surgeries without waking up at 4 am

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Premature babies have very different needs than full-term babies. Preterm babies do not have the fat and reserves to go a whole week with only a few drops of colostrum. And even then, many times we have to fortify the breastmilk because it doesn't have enough calories to allow a small infant to grow.

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I have read the thread I have had three preemie kids (33 weeks 35 weeks and 36 with iugr)

None of them have received formula. two of them required lots of help eating, and we used an ng tube when we were in the hospital, and a sns when we were at home but all with pumped milk.

I think that the "few drops of colostrum" is a myth, I could pump 2 oz of colostrum every 2 hours around the clock (a 5lb baby needs about 45 mls every 3 hours to grow)
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I started pumping 2 hours after my c section. I pumped a lot and Maggie still gets the special formula. But nurses all day and all night. She gets 4 4oz bottles daily of 2 oz pbm/2 oz neosure or whatever its called. I pump when she misses a feeding during the day and every morning.

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