My little guy is almost 8 months old and my mom hates it whenever I mention the fact that he was born prematurely in conversation with others. For example if someone asks me how much he weighed at birth, I tell them he was 5lbs. When they stare in amazement, I explain he was born 5 weeks early. They always seem perplexed because at almost 8 months he's a chunky monkey at 18 lbs!
My mom hates any mention of the word preemie or that I tell others his birth weight or that he was born early. I don't see the problem but she thinks it'll impact his self-esteem and make him think he was "sick" or something.
On the other hand, DH takes it in the opposite direction. Nic already pulls to standing, cruises, crawls well, sits unassisted, and has taken a few steps on his own. When others say, "Wow, he's doing well for 7.5 months", DH says "And he was a preemie so he's actually doing really well! He must have inherited it from me" (DH is incredibly athletic!)
So....what would you do? I don't think there's anything shameful in being a preemie or being the parent of a preemie so I don't think there's any reason for me to hide or deny the fact that Nic was born early and small. However, I also don't think I have to preempt his milestones with "And he was born prematurely....."
I have a friend who had her twins at 28 weeks, both shy of 2 lbs, and now at 7.5 months they're still only 8 and 11 lbs. People always assume they're newborns and when they find out their age, she explains they were very prematurely born. They're going to small for their RA for a while so most likely she'll continue to explain that they are preemies.
Is there a time when the word preemie drops from the vocabulary we use to describe our DC? How long does it stay with them?