I really need to vent and get some good ole' advice. Here it goes, I'll try to keep it short and sweet
My MIL made a comment to my mother when the baby wasn't even a week old that she was surprised that I needed help and that I "didn't have things under control yet". She lives right across the street from me, literally, and never offers to help. Well, when she does, she forgets, and has forgotten to babysit the kids quite a few times over the last couple years. When I do ask her to babysit, she always hesitates and acts like I'm imposing. SHe's freaking RETIRED!! She's always making comments like how once she gets this done, she'll watch the kids. BUt it never happens
My mother made a very out of line comment to my 3 1/2 yo DD the other day. DH told me, and we are both very pissed. They were outside filling up the lil' baby pool when my mother grabbed the hose and squirted my DD in the face and said "Now that'll shut you up", then she squirted my 21 month old. My kids dont like to be squirted with the ice cold water. But, that comment!! How do I address it? She's very controlling, belittling, and condesending. She spazes out and yells at my kids a lot after I ask her not to. She tries telling me what clothes to specifically have my DD wearing when she takes her out somewhere, and she favors my DD over DS. She leaves him out of a lot of projects that she does with my DD, and only buys her toys most of the time while my 21 month old chases them around crying.
however, my mom is always the one to babysit when needed and offers a lot. Plus she buys the kids clothes and activites, whereas my mil sometimes gives us money to help out while I was on unpaid maternity leave and she's giving us her old (1992) car.
I have to also add that they both believe in that picking up the baby too much when he crys spoils him. WTF?? I do NOT let my kids cry,especially a baby! They cry for a reason. Makes me wonder what really goes on when they're babysitting.
I really feel like I'm at a loss here. And I officially go back to work tomorrow...and I'm still working on my low BM supply problem