Originally Posted by stanleymama
I am actually shocked that a mama would go through that here. I am all for making this a supportive place no matter the personal choices we make.
I regularly don't discuss some of my parenting decisions on this board because I know that I will be flamed for them.
Also, re: Rico'sAlice - I completely understand with what you are saying, and to an extent I agree with you. However, I wonder sometimes what incites people here on mothering to tell other people how to parent their children. I agree 100% with giving another mother information on breastfeeding/cosleeping/etc if she asks for it and is interested in it. I can't understand why a mother can't come here asking for the best advice from wise mothers she respects on formula feeding her baby without being flamed for pages for formula feeding.
I'll just be really up front with all of you right now. My son is 10 months old and has been exclusively formula fed since he was 6 months old. He starts the evening in his crib and is generally brought into bed if he wakes up and doesn't want to be put back down. He also takes his naps in the crib. I believe in explaining to him about areas that are off limits - ie, the toilet, cat litter box, etc, and saying "No" as well as redirecting his attention.
I don't consider myself to be mainstream, but I did deliver my son in a hospital and intend to again. After 24 hours of labor I asked for a small dose of a pain killer, and if I am in that scenario again, I would not berate myself for asking for help again.
I think you and I agree that if a mother is doing something illegal, blatantly dangerous or violent/aggressive, we would both inform her of that - ie, your newborn baby needs to ride in a car seat and you shouldn't spank her when she cries. However, I find so many people here creating a life or death situation over something that isn't truly that. I agree 100% that breastfeeding is the best choice, provides the perfect nutrition for my baby, and I fully intend to breastfeed this baby as well. However, I don't think my baby is going to end up severly disabled if I do not, nor do I think he/she will immediately die from SIDS, etc.
I'll try to step daintily off my soap box now... my point is just that ... well, you all got it I hope.
Anyone else going through anger/temper stuff now that they're pregnant? I am.