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Old 03-06-2007, 12:53 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Ok, I feel odd today...... why?? Because I'm awake and alert and acutally feeling GOOD for the first time in two weeks. Yay!! There has been nothing in particular wrong, just... yuck. Today was nice, I didn't feel too tired to go up the stairs at work, and even went out to visit my old boss and do some consulting for him. Go figure.

Baby is running circles in my belly today. Obviously there's too much room in there for them! My stomach muscles are SO tired!! makes up for the rest of me I guess

Anyone else feeling pretty good this week? I hope so!

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Feeling pretty great here, too. Overwhelmingly large, but good! Baby is still rolling around like crazy, so she must have plenty of room. I hope she enjoys it, as it won't last much longer!

We have our 2nd ultrasound this week to check placenta placement. It was completely covering my cervix before, so we're praying that it's moved out of the way. My MIL is going to go to this one with me, since she's never seen an ultrasound before. I'm excited to be able to share it with her!

We are still waiting (although impatiently on my part) for a house to be ours before the babe comes. I'm coming to terms with not bringing this baby home to our *own* home and am trying to do some random things around here to prepare for her. One nice thing about still living here when she's born is I'll be living w/ MIL who is the queen of being helpful! It will be nice not to worry about meals/cleaning etc. for quite some time after she's born.

I've been busy selling stuff to purchase some new baby carriers. I've only ever used an OTSBH. It's been wonderful, but now that I know so much more about "babywearing" and the different types of carriers available, I'm having fun shopping at the FSOT boards on thebabywearer.com. I can't hardly bring myself to buy new...

Hope everyone else is doing well.

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Whew! I just finished a 5000 word paper on Country music in the thirties. That means, only 1 more essay and 3 exams and I'm done this semester! Granted, I just start again in April, but I'm only taking 3 courses, one of which is a 100-level, Intro French course so it should be super-easy. Whew! However, that still means a lot of work for the next few weeks.

This baby is getting BIG. I never thought I'd see the day...

Well, I guess that's all for now. Hope everyone else is doing well.
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Glad to hear everyone's doing so well... and that's great Amyleigh that you fininshed that paper- that was fast!

I am doing well, too. I hung out with my midwife last night and we just mused on birth... it was beautiful, and I am really excited about having this experience. And my health and stats are all on target. BP is 112/70 and fundal height is 31 cm (I'm about 32 weeks). The baby is in a vertical position with her head in my pelvis... although there is so much movement that I am not counting on this being it or anything. Fetal HR is approx. 130. All good news. We talked more about the options for UC and for her assisting, and it just feels great to be able to have such an open dialogue without her taking anything personally or having some seperate agenda from ours.

Some more good news... I think I have found a new office space for the fall.. there are 3 offices, and if shared between 6 women, it'll only be like 104$ per woman. This is great! Affordable is key for me b/c while I want enough hours to get liscenced, I do not want to work more than a couple days a week.. so sharing is the way to go! My friend and another therapist is going to go check out the situation today- I am optimistic!

The big thing that's up for me right now has to do with my writing- but I really don't want to spin out the story today about how challenging it is for me right now.. ugh! So, let's just say that I am about to go get cleaned up, dressed, park it at the coffee house, and write- even if it sucks, I am going to write. It is amazing how I'll procrastinate if I feel like what I am producing isn't great work (which seems to be happening more in pregnancy- I'm just not as clever or slick with words) .. so today my intention is to produce with abandon. I'll keep the perfectionist at bay by remembering the words "my work is abundant and my words are prolific".. ahh.. editing can always happen on another day

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I'm feeling really pretty good these days. It's getting warmer here and I went out the buy some more maternity clothes good for warmer weather. I just came to realize that there is no decent place to buy maternity clothing around here at all. It's pretty pathetic. So, I guess it's all online from here on out. Well, that and I'm going down to visit my parents in Orange County this weekend. I'm sure I'll find something there. I just wanted to have some OC weather appropriate clothing before I got there. They are throwing me a baby shower on sunday. It's a joint shower with my cousin who is due the same week. It'll be nice to see everyone.

I'm feeling a little lazy today. I was planning on bringing dd to a fun toddler science class this morning, but I haven't been able to motivate myself to get ready. The weather is perfect, so I think I'll get us ready to go and play at the beach instead.

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I am OK. Had a massage yesterday, which was nice. I have a spot on my lower right back that aches - did the same thing with first pregnancy and I know some chiropractor visits will fix it I just keep not calling. Need to do that! A microwaved rice bag tucked into the back of my pants feels nice!

I took my daughter swimming today, which was fun - and she conked out a little after 7 PM because of it! I think we'll try to go every week or so. It's at a hotel and it's only during the winter when the hotel isn't too busy, so it's good to take advantage of it when we can.

I'm trying not to sit on the couch, but I am sitting on the couch a lot anyway. Trying to do a lot of forward leaning posture, too, though, to hopefully balance it out. I guess I'll get more serious about it as the weeks go by.

I have been considering one of those belly bands, but I am really really trying not to buy one. I bought very minimal maternity clothes and am not up for buying more when I only have 9 more weeks to go. (But I'm not going to the OC for a baby shower either! LOL I think I would have to buy something in that case!!!)

My best friend is going to throw me a shower. I almost told her not to before she even suggested it, but then she suggested it and couldn't be talked out of it and now I'm thinking of all these ideas! I think we're going to tie dye some gender neutral baby clothes, which is a tradition for me and will be really fun to do with several other people.

It snowed all day today, which makes winter so much more bearable. We're heading south to Illinois in a few weeks for a visit and I'm hoping the weather is warm there so we get a break. We usually also go to Florida in March, but not this year. My parents are going to the Grand Canyon and I'm so jealous - I've never been and I am just imagining myself in the desert. Ahhh.

I'm really feeling like I'm in the home stretch! Only nine more weeks! I know, nine more weeks... and they will get harder as I get bigger. But I'm taking it easy and I can keep it up. I had a pretty big day with my daughter today, and when we got home I told her I'd get her some water but as soon as I sat down I wasn't going to get up for a while! She was really understanding and tried to help - got me the phone when it rang and tried to let the dogs out and everything. Yesterday she was microwaving the rice bag for me! LOL It's going by fast, and I hope it keeps going by fast. I'm enjoying it, but I've got my eyes on the prize.
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heh, i think i am officially ready for this to be done with. this babe has settled into a position where her feet are permanently up in my left ribcage, almost around onto my back, and it feels soooooo icky whenever she squirms!! That thread on the movements getting smaller--mmmmm that's never really applied to me--less range in there, but def. just as forceful if not moreso. The hiccups are so often they make me want to cry, or maybe just everything makes me cry lately Everytime I go anywhere I am bursting into tears for some weird reason or another--I feel like such a wuss! And the BH have started for me, I mean the *real* ones, that make me have to stop and catch my breath for minute or so, and if she's kicking at the same time as that, urgh it makes me want to :Puke

/ungrateful/whiney rant.

thank you for listening. you might note it's not even 7am right now. why am I up? too much kicking!!

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I had a midwife appointment yesterday- same standard stuff. I am measuring small still, 2 weeks small. But my fundal height is right under my breasts now! I took a friend of mine to the birthing center with me, and she will probably go there too.

I was told I am boarder-line UTI, and to drink LOTS of water and cranberry and she won't have me get a prescription if I don't have any symptoms. I've gained 2 lbs in the last 2 weeks. I am about 25 lbs total now- but I am ALL belly!

I am really ready to be done being pregnant now! Although it seams like my DH gets sweeter and sweeter the bigger my belly gets!

It's getting harder to bend over too! And sleeping is way off. I wake up every 2 hours now. Maybe I am just getting ready for baby, and it wakes me up to prepare for waking in all hours of the night!

The weather here is getting nicer. I am SOOOO ready for winter to be OVER.

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Although it seams like my DH gets sweeter and sweeter the bigger my belly gets!
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The weather here is getting nicer. I am SOOOO ready for winter to be OVER.
heh, it's been HOT here for a good week already : time to bust out the dresses and sarongs, yay!!

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I swear things are never going to calm down in my life. I am getting hit from every angle.
Today, I am having a lot of self doubt. We spent yesterday at the emergency room with my 14 year old (he was taken there by ambulance). The stress of it all especially for about 15 minutes I thought my son was dead, causes lots of contractions etc. It did not help, that I literally out ran the fire department getting to my son (not sure if that is adrenaline or where we live the fire department is out of shape). Anyway, I was very uncomfortable etc but knew within my hearts of hearts baby was fine. All I needed to do was lay down drink some juice and breathe. We were not at the hospital where I am delivering at nor is my dr. on staff at this hospital. Well according to the ER staff and dr. I was looking horrible the longer I sat there (okay I had a rollaway chair with no back and my child was violently ill from both ends). They kept on insisting that I needed checked out and I resisted. I went to use the bathroom and was followed their by two nurses to make sure that I was okay. They put even more pressure on me by sending down an labor and delivery nurse to check on me. Then I started feeling something leak and went okay fine. they reassured me if I was in labor (which I knew I was not) they would transfer me to the hospital of my choice but they had an excellent care facility. Oh then they let me know my dr. would not be delivering my baby anyway so what did it matter where I delivered out. ARGH! why piss off the pregnant woman? Yes, my dr. does all of his own deliveries. He only has 2-4 patients due in any given month and the only time he does not deliver the patient is if he is on vacation. So I spent 3 1/2 hours in a strange hospital with strangers while my husband stayed with our son. They were on the first floor and I was on the 7th. As soon as I got laid down, things were fine (like I said). Anyway they told me they thought I tore my c-section scar from running. Do you know how rare that is? Then they thought I might have a tiny pin size tear leaking amino. but everything looked great. Anyway, I went to visit my dr. today for the truth and everything is fine in fact my blood pressure is normal too. Baby looks great. I lost 1 1/2 pounds though since Monday. I just am upset with myself that I let these strangers pressure me into something that I did not feel was necessary etc. By the way my child is doing well now.

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OMG Heidi!!! so glad that you and ALL your kiddos are okay--!!

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That sounds so scary Heidi! Glad everything turned out well.

We went to NYC this weekend.
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Lots of fun.

OT, but kind of relating to pregnancy. It's my daughter and how she is with the baby. It's so cute. She tells me the baby is hungry and needs to eat wogurt (yogurt). And when I rub my belly with oil She calls it Oi-lo. I just love how she talks. She loves to blow raspberries on the baby and give my belly kisses.
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Ok, I feel odd today...... why?? Because I'm awake and alert and acutally feeling GOOD for the first time in two weeks. Yay!! There has been nothing in particular wrong, just... yuck. Today was nice, I didn't feel too tired to go up the stairs at work, and even went out to visit my old boss and do some consulting for him. Go figure.

Baby is running circles in my belly today. Obviously there's too much room in there for them! My stomach muscles are SO tired!! makes up for the rest of me I guess

Anyone else feeling pretty good this week? I hope so!
I'm 31 weeks too! My baby is acting like an insomniac. She keeps me up when I sleep and then when I'm awake. Haha.

It feels like I have a big ole watermelon attached to my frontside.
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Oh goodness heidi. i hope everything stays clam from here on out for you!

I just finished my finals for the term (8 week accelerated courses suck) I just want to nap. I didnt want to study. YUCK but that is over. I aced my law and ethics final with a 94 and got a 96 on my research paper on the over medicating of children. I am pretty sure I did great in the computer class to so Im not too worried. I'm holding a 4.0 and want to keep it that way. only 4 more classes. juvinile justice, effective law practice management, a humanities and one more class I cant remember. I graduate this summer. and I CANT WAIT!
pregnancy wise I feel OK i guess. im tired alot, but not horribly so. just normal. I am way moody however which isnt fun for those around me. My hips are a little better after the chiro, but not by much. My mom is going to get her friend over to do reiki for me. My mom is a massage therapist and knows how BUT because we dont get along really well I think its best she doesnt do the reiki on me.
My mother continues to drive me bat shit crazy! she made me so mad yesterday (by not showing up when she said she would) that I actually got a nose bleed. WTH?
My MIL however is awesome. we spent 2 hrs on the phone looking at diapers online. I think she may get the baby started with a stash. WOOHOOOO.
I have to ask you guys we like the name david for a boy. My husband lost a cousin named david almost 30 years ago from a drunk driving accident. his brother (steve)is now the only one left. david and his dad were killed, steve survived and theri mother passed about 7+ years ago. we talked to steve about it, and really he is the only one who has an opinion that counts at this point. he said it was cool if we had a boy to name him david. now DH's family is flipping out at the idea. Am I being a jerk? Its been almost 30 years and while I understand it is a painful thing to think about, it's reality. maybe I am being insensitive.
Oh and on a HIGH note I GOT MY BEADS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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AnneMarie,

Way to go on school. What are you going to do when you graduate?

I think its a high honor to name your son David. Why do other people think it has to much hurt? Maybe its time to heal?

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AnneMarie,

Way to go on school. What are you going to do when you graduate?

I think its a high honor to name your son David. Why do other people think it has to much hurt? Maybe its time to heal?
I will apply to the local court for now(in sept anyway) I will then go back and keep going until I get into law school
and yes it is time to heal

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Feeling pretty good same as most of you by the sounds of it! babe has moved a bit and i can breathe and my ribs hurt less, but my hips hurt more go figure lol!
i had what will be my last ultrasound on monday, and all the concerns we had are gone! My cervix measures great and so do my fluid levels, baby is a good two weeks ahead in size for my due date (but i have been sure for some time that my due date is wrong anyway, so it makes sense). So i can not feel guilty for not being on proper bedrest as i should be, lol, and i can (and have) had sex again! YAY for me!!!

The ultrasound was pretty neat actually, baby has eyelashes and eyebrows and a ton of hair on its head, starting to look pretty cute actually, this is a close up sideways of my baby's face.. can you see?

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On Sunday i had some portraits done, ive never *modeled* before, not really, so it was pretty fun. It was free too, traded 30 proofs and three touched up prints for my 3 hours and he gets the rights to the pictures. I can't wait to get them so i can show off my belly! I felt so beautiful

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Hi everyone! Heidi - my gosh, what happened?!!! That sounds so crazy.

David is a wonderful name, and it's a wonderful reason to name someone. One of my best friends in high school was named after her recently deceased aunt, and it she liked it.

I think I am feeling pretty good for almost 32 weeks (oh! it's Friday - 32 weeks officially! LOL). Not much heartburn at all, very little discomfort, some pain but if I will just call the chiropractor I know that can be fixed.

Anyone else getting massages? At the place I go she has this special pillow thing that lets me lie on my stomach. The first time I went it was awesome, but this past time it wasn't positioned quite right and it was hard to re-position. SO, I thought of a solution. I'm going to ask her to position it while I still have my clothes on! LOL So it's easy for me to move around and for her to be down there adjusting while I'm not naked. I'm excited that I thought of that - I feel like each massage is so precious I want it to be JUST RIGHT.

My big news is that my husband and I made a decision about labor/birth. We're going to go to the hospital and plan to UC there, with our daughter. I was OK with it, then I got really mad last night (after he was asleep, I just kind of riled myself up LOL) and now I'm OK again. I feel good about having a decision made, and that we're on the same page etc. I'm still kind of sort of clinging to my home UC, and I'm still going to talk about it with him a bit - at least ask him to have an open mind about things in the moment. I'm not looking forward to being the mega-bitch that I'm going to have to be to have my way in the hospital, but c'est la vie.
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That is good that they will let you UC at the hospital.
I wish I could get a massage. They can be quite pricey for us.
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That is really neat that they will let you UC at the hospital.

I do not know if I mentioned it again but my gymnast of a daughter has been turning yet again. She was head down which was so nice for me. I have to have a c-section so it really does not matter where she is at but she had been transverse so it took a lot of pressure off me and felt great. Well then last Sunday she turned and she put her little head right under my ribcage on my left side same place of broken rib. Its healed but come on its sore. Well then, she has moved again and she is now transverse. There is no room for her to be that way. I spent two nights ago and all day yesterday sick off and on. I think she is pressing on my stomach or something. Because it hits me bam and if I can get her to move I am okay. Of course me being sick, I am dehydrated and contracting. I am in this vicious cycle.

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Just to clarify - I haven't gotten permission to UC at the hospital. I'm just going to do it. LOL I want a UC, my husband wants to be at the hospital. So, this is what we've come up with. We shall see how it turns out.
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Emily, How do you guys feel about homebirth with a midwife? : that seems like a more reasonable compromise to me. I'd just be wary of having to gear up to be a super-bitch to get the birth you want, KWIM? It's not very conductive to good labor and it's more dificult when you've got oxytocin coursing through your veins making you more loving and trusting.

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Emily, How do you guys feel about homebirth with a midwife? : that seems like a more reasonable compromise to me. I'd just be wary of having to gear up to be a super-bitch to get the birth you want, KWIM? It's not very conductive to good labor and it's more dificult when you've got oxytocin coursing through your veins making you more loving and trusting.
Or at least a doula along with you, so she can be the "bitch" and you can just concentrate on birthing?
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I talked with a midwife-in-training. At first I wanted her to just be my UC backup, which she didn't want to do at first but is now considering. The weird part is the money. My insurance doesn't cover midwives, so we'd be paying out of pocket for that, which is about the same as my insurance deductible so if we did end up transferring to the hospital we'd basically be paying double. Seems simpler to just go to the hospital. I don't think I'll really have to be too bitchy - this is a small town with polite people. We haven't talked about it again since the other night, but I plan on discussing it in more detail with him about keeping a really open mind about staying home for as long as we're comfortable, etc. Anyway, I almost think it would be harder to have a UC with midwives (two would come) at home - they send a list of food for me to have for them, etc. It's a much more "friendly" thing and I honestly don't want a midwife at my birth anymore than I do a doctor. Probably doesn't make much sense, but those are my feelings about it! Plus, the midwife is two hours away and would want me to go for prenatals, which I'm unwilling to do. No doulas around here either. I plan to ask people to stay out of our room, and if they do come in, my husband will keep them away from me.

I drove on some really horrible dirt roads today, just me and my daughter, they were all slushy with some ice, etc. I was sliding around all over the place, it was kind of scary and of course the baby started moving around and made me think about how that was definitely about the worst place I could go into preterm labor! I was SO far away from everything - an hour away from my hometown TINY hospital and farther than that away from anything bigger too. I'm not at all afraid of preterm labor, but the situation made me think about it. My husband was about 30 minutes away by car, but he only had his snowmobile and would have had a really hard time finding me even if he did get someone to drive him. I could have called an ambulance and told them where I was, but they would have taken at least an hour. Pretty interesting!

I still haven't had a gender dream, which is so ironic since I had one with Delia but didn't believe in it and I was ready to completely believe in one this time around. One of my friends thinks I'm going to have a boy - so much so that last night someone came up to me and said "So, Emily, I hear you're going to have a boy!" LOL I said "Uh, news to me!" I guess she overheard the friend discussing it with another friend and thought it was fact.

I did have a dream where my skin was super thin and I could feel every part of the baby totally clearly and it was super cool but also freaky. It was all skinny.

My Mom and Me Pouch arrived today. And my MIL asked me if there's anything she can get me (FINALLY! ROFL). But I actually think I'm going to tell her to wait until after it's born since I can't really think of anything right now, other than stuff that I'd want to be gender-specific.

I'm happy because we're having a warm spell and all the snow is melting, so my husband won't be snowmobiling anymore, which will be nice. Have I showed you all the video of Delia on her tiny snowmobile? http://deliaquick.com/delia_kitty_cat_2.mov That girl is a daredevil! The standing up on the sled was her idea. Tonight she was touching the ceiling with her feet on her swing. The swing is on hooks on a beam, about 8" lower than the ceiling, so that's going higher than the height of the swing hooks!
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I talked with a midwife-in-training. At first I wanted her to just be my UC backup, which she didn't want to do at first but is now considering. The weird part is the money. My insurance doesn't cover midwives, so we'd be paying out of pocket for that, which is about the same as my insurance deductible so if we did end up transferring to the hospital we'd basically be paying double. Seems simpler to just go to the hospital. I don't think I'll really have to be too bitchy - this is a small town with polite people.
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I'm happy because we're having a warm spell and all the snow is melting, so my husband won't be snowmobiling anymore, which will be nice. Have I showed you all the video of Delia on her tiny snowmobile? http://deliaquick.com/delia_kitty_cat_2.mov That girl is a daredevil! The standing up on the sled was her idea. Tonight she was touching the ceiling with her feet on her swing. The swing is on hooks on a beam, about 8" lower than the ceiling, so that's going higher than the height of the swing hooks!
Maybe you can talk about your wishes with the staff somewhat ahead of time too

I LOVED snowmobiling when I was little. I never got to have a tiny one. sooooooooooooooo much fun!

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Emily I'm curious too--so your ideal wish was for a UC/UP, but you're going to go to the hospital, kinda "at the last minute" after you've done a good chunk of your labor at home....? I'm asking because I am thinking about "backup options" as well. I really wish I could just live in the same area as my dear midwife-friend and have her attend my birth, because I trust her and I also know that she *totally* gets my longing for minimal interventions etc. Sigh... (ps if i'm hijacking the thread with this Q then just pm me please! )

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That's the plan at the moment. I would love it if my husband was totally cool with it, and ended up not wanting to go to the hospital after all. The timing is pretty critical - I have to show up early enough to be laid back enough for them to leave me alone in the room to labor, but not so early that I'm there longer than I want to be. Plus, I just want to labor (and birth) at home so much more than I want to at the hospital. While it's nice having a plan we agree on, I'm getting a little mad that my husband gets this much say in where I give birth. I mean, we live across the street from the hospital... And we have to pay out of pocket for anything but a UC. And so much more than that!

How far away is your midwife friend? If that's what you really want, is there some way to make it work? The nearest midwives to me are two hours away. They charge $175 extra for the travel, but they do come up here.

I wanted to go to bed two hours ago... I know you have lots of other stuff to think about as far as UC - place, people, circumstances, etc. I would love for you to get what you want - the midwife friend with you, wherever you are.
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This month of Mothering magazine has an article on having a homebirth at the hospital. Its a pretty amazing story since her baby was breech too.

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all i really want is to be somewhere, anywhere, where I was safe and could have my DP and my midwife-friend with me. ideally I'd want my older kids around too, but they don't seem that interested or worried about the whole thing! You wouldn't think that'd be sooooooo effin complicated, but yeah. Having your own house is apparently a huge advantage when you're wanting to have a homebirth :

there's a birth center near my parents, and my midwife-friend could come with me perhaps as a doula or even just my friend...and of course DP and the kiddos could come too, but then there's still that pesky little problem of where we'd all go afterwards. Me and my kids are all welcome at my parent's anytime, but jeez is it too much to ask that I want my DP with me in the first few hours and days that we've had our first baby together?? : I don't think it's particularly fair of me to ask my ex that he clear off for awhile while all of us hole up at the house here...even tho I am fairly sure he would do that if it didn't look as if there would be any better option. However, that would still be a temp. fix. Regardless of the arrangements we end up having for the birth, if we don't have our own place before this baby comes, then we're still SOL : okay whine over. sry..

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How far away is your midwife friend? If that's what you really want, is there some way to make it work? The nearest midwives to me are two hours away. They charge $175 extra for the travel, but they do come up here.
Anecdotally, my midwife traveled from the US to Germany to deliver her daughter's baby
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