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#1 of 9 Old 05-08-2007, 10:56 AM - Thread Starter
 
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i've been an exhausted, uncomfortable, anti-social insomniac for the past few weeks. the only people i want to see are my closest friends & family and otherwise i've been holing up in the house & yard. but....dh can't seem to get it!? last week all the kids in the neighborhood were playing outside so i took the girls across the street. i wasn't particularly enjoying the parental small talk but the girls desperately needed to play. when dh got home from work, what did he do? he invited the neighbors over for dinner! (right in front of me without discussion or anything). and to top it off, he fiddled around while leaving me to prepare everything. of course, i discussed this with him later & he apologized. but....he did the same thing today!? he just called saying he invited one of his co-workers over for dinner. what? my parents are coming to town today & he invited someone over? we got in a spat over the phone & he ended up backing off but now he'll have to tell his co-worker i said "no." this makes me batty! i'm really a very social, kind person but how many times to i have to emphasize that right now i don't want to be around people i don't really know? ugh.....

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Sheesh. Forget that nonsense. Are your family staying with you while they're here? Has he been helping get the house ready for them and the birth?!
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A worthy vent! I am upset on your behalf that he told his co-worker that you said no! I think he should take responsibility for messing up and not make you the bad guy.


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Men just don't get it sometimes, God luv 'em. You should let him do his thing next time and say you have to go lay down in your room right before they come That might get the point across.
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Vent away, mama!! This is definitely cause for venting if you ask me! I'd be mad, too.

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Ummmm your due this month and he is inviting people over?!

Do you have a cast iron fry pan to knock some sense into his head?
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That is such a guy thing to do.
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thanks, all! i know it is soooo male to live in the moment & not consider what's going on around you. this is one of the traits that drew me to dh but (as usual) it's one that makes me the most nutty! even though he's just being his good ol' social self, i see it as being inconsiderate, ya know?

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oh doulalove, my DH would probably invite YOUR DH over here in a second, and I think you are near me (Deerfield), so let's both be careful or they will do it!

The last thing I want right now is to see anyone, but my extended family rolls in large groups and often. I just tell myself it's free babysitting for DS while I am SOOO preggo and grumpy.
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