Now is not a good time to start having problems with my doctors ... Updated - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
Old 05-15-2007, 05:26 PM - Thread Starter
 
Liquesce's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Mayberry
Posts: 4,680
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I have not had anything but good, respectful, supportive experiences with my group of doctors ... until today. I agreed to an internal exam to check dilation, and since I always find such exams uncomfortable I didn't think anything of the feeling of it -- until the doctor cheerfully chimed in with the information that she'd just swept my membranes "to see if we can't get things started."

So the question is, does anyone know how likely that is to kick-start labor if the baby isn't really ready? This morning I'd have been thrilled to start labor any day, but right now I feel more like if it starts I'm just going to be a mass of worries that it isn't really right yet.
Liquesce is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 05-15-2007, 05:49 PM
 
sarabrynn82's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Posts: 499
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I know that sometimes women who are really trying to get labor started still end up having their membranes stripped two or three times over the course of a week or two before anything happens - so I would think that if your body/baby really aren't ready that nothing will happen.

Man, it baffles me how often this happens though! I've heard so many stories just like yours...

Anyway, hope all goes wonderfully for you and your labor!
sarabrynn82 is offline  
Old 05-15-2007, 06:07 PM
 
Synchro246's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Florida
Posts: 4,660
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Man that sucks. I feel violated for you. But truely it probably won't start labor unless the baby is ready. I would suggest writing a letter (maybe after your baby is born) saying that it's inappropriate to sweep membranes without consent.

One other thing I suggest is to do a little optimal fetal positoning-especially if you feel labor coming on.

~laura
and planning to eat it again
Synchro246 is offline  
Old 05-15-2007, 06:14 PM
 
ColinsMommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: an alternate reality
Posts: 105
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I had my membranes swept (with consent) when DS1 was a week overdue. My mucous plug came out the next day but it didn't put me into labor. You probably don't have anything to worry about, but it's horrible they did it without asking. I would definitely write a letter!
ColinsMommy is offline  
Old 05-15-2007, 07:01 PM
 
jstar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: portland
Posts: 2,895
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
the first time i had mine stripped it didn't do anything. you'll be fine if your body isn't ready
jstar is offline  
Old 05-15-2007, 08:28 PM
 
MoonStarFalling's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: IL
Posts: 2,748
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I would do more than write a letter. What about infection? Totally inexcusable.

Homeschooling mom of two plus baby R born December 16 love.gif
MoonStarFalling is offline  
Old 05-15-2007, 08:31 PM
 
tammyswanson's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Soutwestern Pennsylvania, USA
Posts: 1,481
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Nice of them NOT to tell you...talk about inconsiderate, or maybe just ignorant... That sucks! I hope things go well for you anyway.

Circ doesn't work! Stop the violence of circumcison. Had another UP/UC/HB in August!
tammyswanson is offline  
Old 05-15-2007, 08:43 PM
 
Pepperdove's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: suburban Chicago
Posts: 656
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My OB swept my membranes last pregnancy and nothing happened for at least a week, so I don't think it did naything. That's so lame they failed to mention it until afterwards. Hope labor starts if that's what you want, or holds off if that's what you want...

Personally I wish my labor would start, but I have till Monday before I can start thinking stripping and such...
Pepperdove is offline  
Old 05-16-2007, 02:04 AM
 
eminencejae's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: UT
Posts: 104
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Synchro246 View Post
Man that sucks. I feel violated for you. But truely it probably won't start labor unless the baby is ready. I would suggest writing a letter (maybe after your baby is born) saying that it's inappropriate to sweep membranes without consent.

One other thing I suggest is to do a little optimal fetal positoning-especially if you feel labor coming on.
: I have the same feelings about what was done to you. Not that I know anything, but it's replies like this that have kept me going in a peaceful confident zone my whole pregnancy. I think this is great advise! The only opinion that I have that differs from this one is that I would NOT wait until after the baby is born to write a letter. I'd send a letter to everyone I could and I'd probably start looking for another provider or go it alone. I'd tell them that that type of behavior is exactly why I'm doing it too! But that's just me and my incredibly hot miserable crabby mood right now. (I've made tons of firey posts tonight and really hope people understand.) I usually hang out on the UC board but this due date club seems to have more info that interests me right now/things going on. So, again, I'm sorry if I'm butting in on threads too much tonight. Everything everyone has to say has got me totally fired up with a great positive comfort level pertaining to my birthing decision and at the same time, I feel so much dismay and confusion and sadness for how many problems I hear about others having.

Everyone supporting eachother on MDC rocks!

mom to boy 14, boy 5, angel.gif  11 week loss, 2ndtri.gif  Expecting a surprise in December! lactivist.gifintactivist.gifhomeschool.gifnovaxnoIRC.gifrocks.jpguc.jpg

eminencejae is offline  
Old 05-16-2007, 02:38 AM
 
richella's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: middle of nowhere, KS
Posts: 2,123
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by twinangels04 View Post
I would do more than write a letter. What about infection? Totally inexcusable.
Not to mention the risk of accidentally breaking the membrane altogether.

But you don't need to worry about that now. Just try to relax, do whatever you would normally do, I know it's easier said than done, but there is no benefit in worrying.
richella is offline  
Old 05-16-2007, 11:08 AM
 
christyc's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: NC
Posts: 1,496
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Wow-- I would be SOOOOO peeved over that! But like others have said, it probably won't start things if your body isn't ready. My mebranes separated on their own well over a week before the birth and still nothing...

As the letter writing queen, I have to support the earlier suggestion that you write a letter after all is said and done. Totally inappropriate for them to do that without consent. ARGH!

Wife of one and mom of five, including my HBAC twins!
christyc is offline  
Old 05-16-2007, 01:18 PM
 
txbikegrrl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Houston, TX
Posts: 721
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Wow -- this really scares me, because "not much is going on down there" according to my OBs and I'm like 38 weeks. So I guess at my next appt, before the VE, I'll ask what the plan is if things haven't really progressed and let them know that I do NOT want any intervention(s)...
txbikegrrl is offline  
Old 05-16-2007, 01:29 PM
 
VOBetz's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Southern Utah
Posts: 575
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm so sorry that they did that without your consent too.

But I don't think that it works if baby is not truly ready. Don't stress, momma!

And yeah - you need to say something to someone about the inappropriateness of that.

Vanessa... Happily married to a paramedic - celebrating 10 years of marriage!  Mama to one crazy 6 year old transformer and one chatterbox 4 year old princess.  Daycare provider to many jumping beans  I'm expecting my third in late November. 

VOBetz is offline  
Old 05-18-2007, 06:50 AM
 
roadfamily6now's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Anchorage, ALASKA
Posts: 3,964
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by twinangels04 View Post
I would do more than write a letter. What about infection? Totally inexcusable.
I agree.
I do NOT trust my OB that much to let him anywhere near my cervix past doing IUI's to get me pregnant.
roadfamily6now is offline  
Old 05-18-2007, 10:00 AM
 
Synchro246's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Florida
Posts: 4,660
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Since this was her last post. . .I think the membrane sweep got something started.
I hope all is well!

~laura
and planning to eat it again
Synchro246 is offline  
Old 05-19-2007, 06:26 PM - Thread Starter
 
Liquesce's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Mayberry
Posts: 4,680
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I think the previous poster is on to something.

I was really appreciating all the responses to this post but was feeling pretty crampy from the exam so I thought I'd come back in the morning and respond ... except somewhere around four in the morning I woke to realize that the crampiness was no longer persistent but distinctly five minutes apart. Sooo ...

Ziad Rashad, born May 16 through an incredibly mellow birth, in part thanks to not worrying quite so much that if the sweep was responsible it might mean problems to the babe. I know info here is generally just anecdotal, but anecdotal evidence was probably enough to keep me from stressing out needlessly and doing damage to the experience. A big "thanks!"
Liquesce is offline  
Old 05-19-2007, 07:11 PM
 
mum4boys's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Washington State
Posts: 2,930
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
congratulations

Heidi
mum4boys is offline  
Old 05-19-2007, 09:05 PM
 
SamGroom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Arkansas River Valley
Posts: 635
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Congrats!!!

Mom of 3.
SamGroom is offline  
Old 05-19-2007, 10:02 PM
 
funkygranolamama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
Posts: 1,649
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
What great news! So happy for you!
funkygranolamama is offline  
Old 05-19-2007, 10:06 PM
 
Breathless Wonder's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2004
Posts: 4,133
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Congratulations!

He who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe is as good as dead; his eyes are closed.  ~Albert Einstein
Breathless Wonder is offline  
Old 05-20-2007, 01:43 AM
 
happyhippimama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Va
Posts: 841
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
YAY!!! Glad it went well.

nurse, mama, doula-in-training to J-14, J-13, S-7, S-4, and P-2(born at home)
happyhippimama is offline  
Old 05-20-2007, 02:05 AM
 
crysmomofthree's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Posts: 2,402
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Congratulations!
crysmomofthree is offline  
 
User Tag List

Thread Tools


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off