edited to add: I don't think you're nuts for not wanting to find out. Baby's sex is one of the last great surprises around these days. I'm just not one for surprises so I prefer to find out. If I liked surprises I think it would be awesome to find out at delivery.
I dont think there is anything wrong or "nuts" about not finding out... to each there own!
JENNY, 38~ preschool teacher, birth activist, sun worshiper, singer, married for 17 years and mom to
Karan 15, Fiona 12, Bodhi 10, Bjorn 6, Devon 3, and Robin Taylor born January 16th!
I can hardly wait to see what our new one will be - boy or girl. I think it adds to the ecstatic birthing experience, at least it has for us.
Actually, DH *did* want to know, but I wouldn't let them tell him either. My uterus, my perogative.
And people do act like you are weird. :P to them! They also want to know what names you've picked out, and I wouldn't share those either, unless they were already discarded from our list. We went to the hospital with a list of about 5 girls' names and 7 boys' names. I needed to meet my son before I could name him.
But this time I am less sure I will do this. Hmm...
First of all, the week before the u/s visit, I told DS in utero (repeatedly) that we were going to be peeking at him, and he should cover himself if he didn't want anyone to see anything. I felt like he deserved to know what was coming and prepare himself.
So I ended up feeling so strongly that I could communicate with my unborn child that it didn't seem like as much of an intrusion as I was worried it would be.
So if we do an u/s this time, and if I tell this little babe about it ahead of time so s/he can decide whether to show off or keep it private, maybe I will find out.
(It might just be that I have a stronger gender preference this time due to already having a son and hoping I will have a daughter, too. Still, I mostly think I am just feeling more relaxed about the intrusion. We'll see...)
Mom to DS(14), DS(12), DD(9), DS(6), DS (4), and DS(2)
My DH is on the fence. Sometimes he wants to know and other times he really thinks about what I've expressed and says he thinks I some good points. He'll go along with me if that's what I want.
Even if we did choose to find out, we would tell our friends and family that we don't know. I hate the blue for boys, pink for girls regimen and we're hoping to raise this child without too much of a socially forced gender role.
We didn't find out with DS and it was one of the most amazing memories of my life having DH practically shriek with joy "It's a Boy!" as I pushed him out. The nursery was neutral and I bought a set of boy clothing and a set of girl clothing so that all my bases were covered. No biggie getting prepared for either sex!
It was fun having the surprise -- DH made sure that he was the one who told me "It's a girl!".
I don't think we'll find out this time, either. I'm cool with waiting -- I *never* peek at xmas gifts!!!
My compromise is that during our midway u/s, I'll tell the tech that they should look at everything they need to....but they don't need to stop over that area to tell us what we're having. If I happen to see something I recognize during the course of the u/s, then fair enough! If I don't, then we'll have a nice surprise!
It's funny because at the birth it took us a few minutes to remember to look to see what we had.....the cord was covering. All that impatience and I wasn't even thinking about the sex.
I should point out that EVERYONE thought I was carrying a boy, low and in front......but we didn't even have a boy name at birth and turns out she was a girl.
love and peace.
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DH's cousin has 3 kids and didn't find out with any of them (all girls). Also, I'd rather buy blue or pink clothes instead of neutral because then there is less confusion after baby is born. If you dress your baby in pink or blue you get less mix up and less questions on whether your baby is a boy or a girl.
DH (34) ~ DDs (14, 11, 10) ~ DS (6) ~ (11/06) ~ DD (3) ~ DS (1) ~ Surpise BFP 7/2011
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