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I had to attend three births in order to finish my DONA doula certification program (I'm still one birth short...my third birth was going to be that of my close friend but we're only due a week apart and, well...).

Anyway, some "student" doulas actually have a lot of experience but need those certification births (births attended before you apply for certification don't "count") so ask about their backgrounds.

Also, some of the early studies done on how effective doulas are showed that just having another woman sitting in the room (not even interacting with the mama!) was enough to reduce interventions and help the mama progress more quickly and with fewer problems! These students are going to be doing a whole lot more than just sitting in a corner...they're probably freshly trained, eager to "try out" all the comfort tools they've learned, and really hoping that you have a wonderful experience since you'll probably be asked to write a short paragraph about how they did! So if you click with a student doula then I wouldn't necessarily worry about their student status.

That said, if you (or another mama considering using a student doula) have had difficult births in the past or have special needs in this birth then they may not be the best choice. A brand new doula or doula still in the training process just isn't as familiar with some things...they haven't actually seen back labor before for example, or they aren't as confident in the hospital setting as you would hope if you're counting on them to provide you with the security/confidence you need to protect a birthing plan in a less natural birth environment.

So it sort of depends on your needs and past experience....

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Okay, totally different topic...and not really DDC related, but DH still isn't home and I have to share!

DD turned 2 last week (on the 5th) and she is currently potty learning in a very off and on fashion. Anyway, when I got home from work she was wearing cloth training pants and she and my mom had been playing "potty time" for much of the afternoon. Shortly after my mom left dd suddenly stopped short and started laughing while saying "Water spill out my hiney!". She was standing there in a little puddle of pee looking totally pleased with herself and laughing...she waddled over to the potty and sat down, and we changed into dry socks/diaper, but she kept telling me that she didn't "really" need to use the potty since "pee" goes in the potty...and this was "hiney water".


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Okay, totally different topic...and not really DDC related, but DH still isn't home and I have to share!

DD turned 2 last week (on the 5th) and she is currently potty learning in a very off and on fashion. Anyway, when I got home from work she was wearing cloth training pants and she and my mom had been playing "potty time" for much of the afternoon. Shortly after my mom left dd suddenly stopped short and started laughing while saying "Water spill out my hiney!". She was standing there in a little puddle of pee looking totally pleased with herself and laughing...she waddled over to the potty and sat down, and we changed into dry socks/diaper, but she kept telling me that she didn't "really" need to use the potty since "pee" goes in the potty...and this was "hiney water".


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This particularly struck me today since we are also working on potty training! I know my DD is a bit older but we have slacked in the potty department and just today made some real efforts! And wonderful progress! I had a naked two and half year old running around the house today for about 8 hours and only one little accident!

Charity I'm sorry for your losses and all the stress, hope things settle in.

Vanessa: I called TWO therepists the other day and left messages and have not heard back from either of them : lol... I suppose that doesn't speak highly of them as far as first impressions go huh? Also... I hope you dont catch that cold!

WilloI hope your cold clears up too... that's never fun!

Wombat Don't know how much it will help the swelling all in all but at yoga tonight, the teacher mentioned two things: rubbing around the ankle joint/bone on the inside of your legs. And also standing, facing the wall, leaning towards it with your hands up on the wall for a little while.

Brookibabeawwww.... feeling the head, that is so sweet and what a special moment!

GenomicsGirl Mom's night out sounds so Fab right now! Don't feel bad about being tired of your MIL already... you didn't chose to live the rest of your life with her! lol... just her offspring

sylvi76: I'm with you on the naming issue... I was thinking about letting every one MDC name the baby since it's becoming apparent I can't

As for me.... just plugging along I suppose.... I made progress today!!! IMO anyway. I told DexP that I could not and would not have "family time" with him and then have him go off and be with the other girl. It wasn't fair and that I feel like I am being played. And that although I DO love him and I am sad to not do the family things and be with him, I will not be his "other girl" fullfill his need for a family and then have him drop us off and go fullfill his need for fun and something new. He was very quite but he listened and didn't get super defensive. I know some of you (and a bunch of my close friends) are rooting for the inner B*tch to come in me and just get mad and mean but I do really love him. I told him I was mad but that I was more hurt by all this more than anything.

He called me later just to say that he really really does love me and thinks about me, DD and Baby on the way every day. He also said he doesn't know what he's doing and he KNOWS he's making stupid choices and decisions. The whole second phone call (where he called me) didn't last more than 2 minutes and I didn't push a conversation.

All in all it was sad and heartbreaking for me but kind of inspiring in a way.... now if I can just stick to my words and decision!!!!!!!!!!
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So what's new today?

I think I am a little less phlegmy, so perhaps I am fighting off instead of succumbing to the cold.

DH made it safely, and (amazingly for him!) on time to Utah. On the phone last night, he said, "This place (Snowbird) is great! You would love it. I think I should bring you here sometime, later, when the kids are big enough to leave home."

Now I had suggested back in Jan/Feb when some of you may remember that I was feeling stir crazy and generally hormonally nutso that I go with him on this trip. HE said I would be bored because the hours for these conferences run so long. I (gently?) reminded him of that conversation. :

But DS handled a Papa-less bedtime just fine. I let him sleep in the big bed with me. I didn't want to skip his usual cuddle, and, once I'm prone, I sure do hate to heave myself up again. He's usually too kicky/rough for me to enjoy sharing a bed with, but I've discovered yet another benefit to my giant maternity pillow!

Today my contractor is bringing over the foreman to walk through our kitchen in preparation for starting Wednesday. Eep! I'll be giving him a big check and the key to my house... That's a little scary.

I think my heartburn has backed down a little. I wonder if it is the attempts I'm making at eating more almonds (e.g., almond butter instead of peanut butter, etc.)?

I am also starting to be concerned about a weird pain I get. For weeks now, when I lie down on my right side, I would sometimes get a sudden, quite sharp, but fairly brief pain on the lower right side, kind of near where my pelvic bone would poke out if I were skinny. I thought maybe it was some kind of ligament or other "attachment" part of me that could get pulled or kicked when I was in that position--like how your skin can hurt if your heavy belly hangs in a different way than usual, you know? It is often obviously related to baby's movement, but not ALWAYS. But for the past few days, I've started to get this sharp pain sometimes even when I'm standing up or in other positions, and I think it is getting more frequent, more painful, and lasting longer. None of that seems good. It is strong enough that now it usually makes me gasp or say ouch or otherwise stop whatever I'm doing for a second while it occurs. (Note: it is not at all crampy, and it is way off to the side--nothing even remotely labor-ish.)

Of course I should probably call the midwives, but... can I wait for my Monday appointment? Anyone have any feelings remotely like this?

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Whitewax: I'm proud of you. Setting boundaries and demanding respect is a good thing! Good for you!!

Willo: I do have some hip pain but no sharp pain. It can't hurt to give your MW a call and mention it and then see if she needs to see you before Monday. Maybe she can suggest something to help you get through the weekend? I'm thinking a heated rice sock might help.

DS is super stuffy and sneezy today, his head feels a little warm too. I'm really hoping he's not getting sick. We've been lucky, he hasn't been sick in about a year now. Before that he was having serious issues with ear infections. I hope it's not another ear infection. But at least now he's old enough to tell me what hurts and what doesn't.

Sleep is getting harder and harder these days. If it isn't hip or back pain waking me up I'm waking up because I have to pee or because the baby won't stop moving or hiccupping. At least the end is in sight Worst case scenario I'll be pregnant for another 9 weeks, but it could be all over in as little as 3.5 weeks. I'm trying to enjoy the end and not freak out about what life will be like with 2 kids.

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Good news from me: I have all my birth supplies, except the hose for the birth pool! I'm waiting to buy that until closer to my due date so that if we don't use the pool, I can return it. Anyone know how much they cost, anyway? I haven't even looked. Apparently it's supposed to be non-PVC?

I'm still feeling pretty good, I'm tired from little things with DS (I have to go get groceries today and I'm dreading it) but physically feel pretty good. I wonder if my time feeling this way is coming to and end soon?
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...I'm tired from little things with DS (I have to go get groceries today and I'm dreading it) but physically feel pretty good. I wonder if my time feeling this way is coming to and end soon?

Oh grocery shopping! Boy has THAT become a chore!! I can't believe what a difficult a task that is right now. I have to go shopping today as well and I am really dreading it also .

Whitewax: Hang in there girl! You're doing great! Way to "stick to your guns"!

And for me, I've given up most of my computer time and have begun spending a most of my day in bed with books and a gallon jug of water. I feel like I need to recharge for a full day whenever I perform some physical task. At first I found it annoying but I've made peace with it. I went to the used bookstore and bought a ton of books to keep me entertained. Now I eat, read, pee, and plead with the baby to stop lying transversely.

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But DS handled a Papa-less bedtime just fine. I let him sleep in the big bed with me. I didn't want to skip his usual cuddle, and, once I'm prone, I sure do hate to heave myself up again. He's usually too kicky/rough for me to enjoy sharing a bed with, but I've discovered yet another benefit to my giant maternity pillow!

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I have to laugh at this because my DS is a big mover/kicker in our bed too. He always has to be right on top of one of us, and usually can't decide who so moves around A LOT! The other night ds came to our bed and I was "hidden" with all of my big pillows, so he thought I wasn't here, and honestly he didn't bother me one bit. DH kept asking if he was ready to go back to his big boy bed and of course ds didn't want to, I said "just let him stay, he is being just fine". When Dh responded of course he is not bothering you, you have your baricade of pillows". I don't think I will be retireing them anytime soon

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Is anyone else nervous that tomorrow is the 14th? I really hope that dream does not come true, none of us better go into labor today or tommorrow ok?!

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Yay WhiteWax! Hang in there mama...

Anyone else getting a lot of hiccups? Roro seems to be having 5-6 minute long hiccup jags a couple of times a day. I know that it's a really good sign (she's working on breathing and strengthening her lungs...and I had a high risk OB specialist person once tell me that babies that hiccup are "doing better" than babies that don't...but don't worry if you're not feeling hiccups! They can also drive you totally batty).

Anyway, my belly is hiccup central these days.

I'm totally nervous about tomorrow, especially since TODAY is the day I am "eligible" for the level II NICU here in Ithaca (they do 32 weeks and 3.5 pounds and up). But I'm confident that Roro will be staying put for at least another 5 weeks or so! Stay in there baby!

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I'm a bit touchy about tomorrow being the 14th.... thanks for getting us in an uproar willo!!!! Just kidding...

I had some mondo, steady and long lasting contractions last night but they finally subsided so i just went to bed. I was reflecting today on the fact that the period I had right before I got pregnant was only a day long but because of measurments and all that, they think it was a fluke.... hmmmmmmm dont know. If, for some reason they were TERRIBLY wrong I would have been due May 5th instead of June 5th.... but, like I said, measuring wise I'm on target for June.

And the hiccup thing, I have been told it's a good sign that the baby is having a nice lung work out... but not to worry if you dont have them as much. I had TONS with DD and not so many this time around.

And thanks every one for the encouragment.... I already want to cave and it's only been a day!
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[QUOTE=wombatclay;7837467]Yay WhiteWax! Hang in there mama...

Anyone else getting a lot of hiccups? Roro seems to be having 5-6 minute long hiccup jags a couple of times a day. I know that it's a really good sign (she's working on breathing and strengthening her lungs...and I had a high risk OB specialist person once tell me that babies that hiccup are "doing better" than babies that don't...but don't worry if you're not feeling hiccups! They can also drive you totally batty).

Anyway, my belly is hiccup central these days.

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Hiccups like crazy here too, thanks wombat for the reasurance, I had never heard it was a good thing, they were really starting to drive me nuts, but I am now happy to hear that it means my baby is getting REALLY strong. Now I won't be so irritated when I can't sleep or something because of them. One thing I do like about the hiccups is that it reasures me that the head is down.

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Sorry about sharing my April 14th dream. I didn't mean to freak anyone out! Remember, I don't actually think that I'm psychic.

Now, I want everyone to post a lot more for the next few days so I have some virtual company. DH is gone until Monday night, and I am bored, lonely, and feeling a little crazy already! (I don't know how the military wives survive it--God bless you all!)

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it's ok Willo...

my mom just told me that the neice of some one she works with was due June 12th and just had a 3 lb baby yesterday. I guess she's doing ok but still scary.

As for being lonely I'm lonely too!!! lol I'll post! I'm seriously craving salad and bread sticks from the Olive garden and will be heading there tomorrow for lunch with a friend or two...

Willo, what's your favourite Ice Cream flavor?
Favourite indulgance?
least favourite food?
Best child hood memory???

just some silly questions to kick the bordem! Happy posting!
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also if you're REALLY bored, feel free to name my baby!!!
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tons of hiccups here too. but what is driving me nuts is where the position is. he's head down but he's been posterior sort of over to the left for a loooong time. and then they moved to the front and then the right for a while. so i get really happy and curious whenever he gets them to see what position he's in. i'm glad he's moving a bit. he was so stuck in the same position i was starting to freak out. isaac pretty much had his butt right out front in great position for a looooong time before he was born.
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Lastnight I felt the baby's head. It was so awesome. I could feel it moving around so I put my hand on my belly and then the baby just stuck it's head way out. I could feel the roundness and size - so tiny. I've never felt anything like that before. Good news though - head down!
This morning I think I felt the baby's head poking out, too--wow, that's a weird sensation! And it was on the left side, so she's still transverse. I'm glad she's keeping me entertained while DH is away this weekend. The house is so quiet, though.

We got some more positive news about our friend who's recovering from surgery, so that's good too. He had ended up having surgery twice this week for necrotizing fasciitis, which is usually known as flesh-eating disease. It's so scary, and the mortality rate is high. He has young children, too, so we were also worried about them. But finally last night his partner was told that she could get some rest, because the doctors think he's going to make it. Still, so frightening, and so random too, because they don't really know how people get infected. (And therefore, to protect the baby, and myself, I won't be going to visit.)

A little thing that also helped cheer me up after this gloomy week is that our cloth diaper order arrived. Just looking at Kissaluvs in several different colours makes me smile.
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I'm seriously craving salad and bread sticks from the Olive garden ...
Now I want Olive Garden!!! They do have the best breadsticks, don't they? Mmmm...

Proof of how out of sorts I am from DH's absence, I just took DS with me to fill up DH's car's gas tank, pick up a few things at Whole Foods, and get a few boxes from the bookstore (where I work) to pack up my remaining kitchen items. All of this at... 8 pm!

Now, DS sleeps from 9 pm - 7 am (plus a 2-3 hour nap), so it isn't like I took out a kid who goes to bed at 7 pm, but, still, I never voluntarily leave the house after dark anymore. I was just so lonesome, I needed to go see some other people, you know?

The stuff I did was useful, but it really coulda waited until tomorrow!

And speaking of tomorrow, I'm touring Beverly Hospital with my friend (since DH is away.) It is supposed to be a very good hospital. Big sighs. It just isn't my birth center. But I am happy to finally get to look at it. I need to sort of get a fix on it in my head if I want to really imagine giving birth there. I think seeing it sooner rather than later is really useful. If it is awful, I'll be fighting DH and having one of those hotel births, so help me God...

Now, I'm totally exhausted. I'm usually falling asleep right about now myself.

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Now I want Olive Garden!!! They do have the best breadsticks, don't they? Mmmm...
Have you ever tried them with the alfredo dipping sauce? OMG, they are soooo good - and I'm not a bread person. I really love their salads too. It doesn't help that they've been airing this new Olive Garden commercial all week here - DP keep trying to get me to go there for dinner tomorrow and I'm trying to fight the urge.

I'll play the "name the baby" game. I had a ton of girl names picked out but we're having another boy. My fave girl name is Zoe or you could spell it Zoey. Then there is Shae, Abigail, Shiloh, ...I know I have more. Oh, Juliette, I like that one too.

I still don't have a definate boy name either. I had it narrowed down to 4 names and now I'm not so sure I like any of my 4 names.

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Call me a kook for not thinking to ask this yesterday (as I sat here ALL DAY waiting for people to post new and exciting stuff ), but, can anyone think of anything specific I should be sure to ask/look for during the hospital tour?!?

By the way, I'll be leaving the house in one hour.

I guess I'm looking more for "gut instinct" reactions right now. I will take the "birth center hospital tour" (guided by one of our midwives) at around 36 weeks, so I will get another chance to ask what needs asking.

I found, when I toured the (different) hospital during my first pg, the nurse guiding the tour found my questions incomprehensible and her answers were generally quite frightening to my vision of how our birth should go. (When I asked about skipping the baby's bath, she could only ask, "Why would you want to do that?!? They come out all slimy!") At my next doctor visit after that (and in reality), our doctor made all the decisions and that stupid nurse's statements of "fact" turned out to be a lot of hooey.

So I guess that's why I was thinking our NEXT tour of our this hospital (with a midwife leading) will be a better place to ask OUR kind of questions...

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I'd ask them questions about general procedure, like what happens right after the baby is born? Do they take him to the nursery for a bath and assesment? Then you can get a feel for their procedures and know ahead of time which things you want to decline. Ask them if labor and delivery are in the same room (most hospitals leave you in the same room now). Ask if you will be transferred to a different room postpartum, and if so, when? You could also ask about their visitor policy if you plan on having visitors. Ask about baby security - most hospitals do "baby lojack" now and give the baby an alarm band that will sound if anyone takes him near an exit. Ask if they provide birth balls, rocking chairs, or any other natural pain management equipment. Some hopsitals I work in have aromatherapy machines, etc but don't tell you unless you ask.

That is all I can think of right now, I hope the tour goes well!

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thanks for the name ideas... I LOVE ZOE and and Leena is acctually on my list. Leena was my great great grandmothers name and I really like it. Ex doesn't : He's been a pain like that! and Zoe... well.... I use to have a rather risque job and Zoe was one of my characters names... Ex wont go for ANYTHING that was used as a character name... which really stink becuase they are some of my favourite names! Peyton is another one that he wont budge on.... come to think of it he's still being quite a pill about the naming thing..

he called me the other day and said "How about Pheobe" I told him I loved the name... infact I have always liked the name sooooo much that I named my hamster Pheobe when I was 12 and I wasn't going to name my kid after my hamster! Also I think the name has developed and air head connotation from "Friends" so not sure I would go there.
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Jamie, Lena was my greatgrandmother's name too! She was born in Norway.

I love Phoebe! I love Freya too, but I have a Fiona and those are just too similiar to her name. Other girl names I'm not using but love:

Sibella
Noelle
Jaya
Sonora
Sundara
Tamsin/Tansy
Ember
Saba
Anjuna
Blossom
Lyric

Boy names are just not flowing around here, either so I have nothing to offer in that department.


In other news, I'm just still very pregnant. I'm managing yoga still but I was giggling and moaning through class last week and I was wondering if all that discomfort could possibly be good for me! But alas the next morning I felt great, so I guess so! Feeling readjusted to my latest level of hugeness- I gained about 7 pounds in two weeks, which is a lot for me. Baby is feeling agreeable and yes, hicupping often. I'm getting excited to meet her/him but also sort of nervous about the fact that I HAVE TO GIVE BIRTH, remembering more and more how it really FEELS to labor...ZOIKS!

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My favorite girl's name is Linnea (it's a pretty little flower, and a common Scandinavian name) but since we went with "Laia" for dd the name is just too similar. Other options we considered for dd1 were Lyra and Fiona.

For dd2 (We've decided on Rowan Sophia blank-blank BTW) we thought about:

Tiamar
Maris
Sophia (as a first name)
Sephine (after my mom's aunt Josephine who was a REALLY wild lady)
Lorica
Arzu
Ayla
Fiona

And for boys:
Owen
Brandon
Roan
Corbin
Corwin

Our hospital does the baby lojack thing...but it's attached to the umbilical stump! Double arm bands on babe and mama, a single band on the partner, and then the belly button alarm. It's pretty funny...the hospital maternity wing is really small and the room closest to the ward doors is just a little "too" close to the alarm sensor. So when you bring the babe in and out of that room it can set the alarm off. The nurse mentioned this on the tour and of course that was the room we got! And with a c/s we were there three days. Basically we were supposed to call the nurses desk a moment before leaving the room so they would know it was "just us"

How was the tour Willo? Decent? A mama to be on another list had a hospital tour the other day and it was horrid...they simply informaed everyone in the group that they'd arrive at the hospital, go through triage, be given an enema and hooked up to the iv, the epi would be put in place and they'd be shaved in preperation for the episiotomy! Just like that! I couldn't believe that there was a hospital that still did all those "routine" 60's style interventions.

But then, other hospitals (like mine) are really great places to birth...so it depends!

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Okay, so the Beverly Hospital tour was fine.

Really, it has earned some kind of top 100 hospitals in the US for 5 of the last 6 years (or something), and it is certainly at least as nice looking/seeming as the hospital where we had DS, but with larger rooms because we aren't dealing with Boston real estate prices up here on the north shore. (Parking is also free at this hospital, including valet parking, which is a nice change from Boston!)

I actually ended up not asking any of my questions. Mainly, I think the midwives will give me a better idea of what to expect at one of their births than the tour would, since it is geared toward more "typical" hospital births.

Labor rooms are LDR, and they have an annex nearby that is generally used for non-stress tests (and certain pre-term labor mamas and certain u/s procedures), but those rooms are used as overflow if either Labor & Delivery or Maternity get full. (Since that happened when I had DS, I was happy to hear about this! Getting stuck in a double room stinks.)

All LDR rooms have birth balls and rocking chairs and jacuzzi tubs. Of course, these tubs are half the size of the birthing tubs at the birth center, but at least they are good sized bathtubs with jets. There is ONE birthing tub, which, according to our tour guide, is rarely used these days. (She seemed to think it was a fad that fell out of fashion a few years ago. She wasn't excited about it, but said, talk to your midwife if you want to learn about all the details for that.) Birthing tub is stationary, and if that room is full, you are out of luck. :

She did mention the standard procedures--where to check in, then they like to get about 45 minutes of fetal monitoring (strapped to the bed), but said they encourage mothers in early labor to walk around if they need to progress. She explained that IVs are usually used, but said you can talk to your provider about options--getting the thing in "just in case" but not hooking it up, etc. She did tell the group that, if you think you want an epidural, you should get your 2 liters of IV fluids soon after you arrive because it takes a while and, when you want your epidural, you won't want to wait.

I was happy to see a kitchenette on the LDR floor and a full-sized kitchen on Maternity. (Though her comment that "you probably don't want to eat in labor because it's just going to come back up" kind of bugged me, but that's just because I personally experienced zero nausea in labor in spite of eating a fair amount of chicken soup early on and drinking freely throughout!)

On Maternity, it was cool to see the nursery completely empty except for one brand-new baby undergoing its newborn evaluation. There was only one post-partum room available for us to look at, so I know the floor was fairly full. Aside from the newborn evaluation (which we all know I'm freaking out about a little because I want zero separation!), it was obvious that they encourage rooming in and she said you can keep your baby with you 24/7. They also ask the mother explicitly what she does/doesn't want for her baby if she sends it to the nursery--pacifiers, water, wake her if it cries, etc. That's good, and it seemed like a reality and not just "something they say."

I also saw the lactation consultants' cart in the hallway. They have good stuff, and sell it below retail, our guide said. I saw a nursing bra I'd like to try, and I certainly hope their prices are good. Most of my five nursing bras from last time were worn to shreds after almost 3 years nursing DS.

So, all in all, it was fine. Honestly, I did feel like I was about to cry when we were standing by the nursery listening to her talk and that newborn was having its tests. I just HATE that part. But there wasn't actually anything negative that I saw or heard. Even her casual remarks about IVs and epidurals included that "if you want one" caveat, so I thought that was pretty fair, considering most women DO want one.

I really like that, instead of standard meal hours, they have room service! You call whenever you want (7 am - 6:30 pm) and order whatever you want off the menu. I could get used to that really quickly.

DH just called during his lunch break from the conference, and, of course, he thinks I should relax and talk to the midwives about the separation issue and stop worrying. I admit my discomfort isn't purely rational! I'm hormonal! I'm feeling ferociously protective of my baby! So sue me!

So still no resolution, but at least it was definitely better than the hospital I experienced before! That's good, right?

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I'm glad the hospital tour went so well! It sounds like a nice place...

At my hospital they have meal times but maternity "clients" can call in extra food requests at any time. In fact, the nutritionist drops by twice a day to make sure there isn't something you want, and they always encouraged me to add more food to each order. And they do have a yummy "welcome baby" meal for each family...I think DH had steak and I had chicken, but we both had the coconut sorbet. They make it themselves and serve the sorbet in a halved coconut shell! We have the two shells in dd's memory box and it's actually something I'm looking forward to this time round...I want more of that sorbet!

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About the seperation part: You can go with the baby wherever he/she is taken. If you are not in a position to go with, then your DH can. Usually when there is a mom or dad present the nurses try to hurry and give the baby back quickly. I've seen them take babies to the front of the line for assessments when the baby is with a parent. So don't worry too much about it. I'm glad the tour went well! The epi comments bother me too, but when you think about it, a majority of the women that go into the hospital get drugs, so they are just speaking to the majority. We're the "crazy" ones

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I don't know if this is a self-fullfilling phrophecy (sp?) or not, but I'm having contractions. I've had little ones here and there during the day then about an hour ago they started to get more painful and regular. I took some cramp bark and a bunch of water and rested and that didn't do much, so I took some oral terbutaline - the stuff they give you in the hospital to stop labor. I took it 10 mins ago and I'm hoping it works. If not I'm off to the hospital tonight I'm scared. At least I'm a little further along than I was last time this happened. I'll be 33 weeks on Monday. I'm gonna give my MW a call soon and see what she says.

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