Well, indeed, we told the kids last night!
Originally Posted by tatermom
I think kids pick up on changes in the atmosphere of the house and the moods of people around them and it can be confusing for them not to be in the loop (as evidenced by DS's clingy/needy behavior in the past week... he clearly knew something was up
And ultimately this was a big part of the reason why. In spite of all the downsides to telling them this news so early, I felt it was worth the risk. And if this pregnancy isn't meant to be, well, I'm not one who believes she does her children any favors shielding them from all of life's disappointments. But of course I'm sure hoping it doesn't come to that!
Anyway, my stepson is 14 and his reaction is exactly what I expected: Shocked, dismayed, feeling insecure about his position in the order of things ("Oh, no, I won't be the 'youngest' anymore" - he's the younger of his bio family). Now DH told him the news, so I heard about it second hand. He also observed that we must not have used a condom like he learned about in sex ed (!). So glad I wisely opted out of that conversation lol.
My 18 yo stepdaughter was thrilled. She was concerned that we'd need her bedroom. DH reassured her that no worries, the baby would be sleeping with us for some time at first.
My three bio daughters were *elated*. I was a little concerned about my middle child (age 9) - she always complains that she doesn't like babies and she's generally VERY needy/clingy mama's girl. She was the most excited of the bunch! When I commented that I thought she didn't like babies, she said, well it's different when it's YOUR baby.
Hilariously, we also had this bit of dialogue:
"So your new baby brother or sister will probably be here at the end of July"
::doubletake:: "Wait, you mean you guys already did the... thing?!"