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#1 of 191 Old 02-13-2007, 06:57 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi guys,

I'm not really sure how much I will be on the boards this coming week. I'll give the fast version of what happened to Ruby in this post and when I get a chance I'll go in to more detail.

Saturday at 1:30 am, Ruby woke up crying, it was an unusual cry for her so we rushed to see what was wrong. She had a bit of blood on her crib mattress and she was breathing a bit erratically. My husband took her into ER and came back home with her 4 hours later with the diagnosis that it was borderline pnemonia. There were spots on the xray and they were erring on the side of caution. So we went later to get her prescription filled.

We stayed with her the whole day, she would sleep on the bed and on us etc. We gave her meds at 11:00 am (an antibiotic and a puffer). At 11:00pm we gave her another dose and noticed that she had some congestion. So, my husband picked her up and rubbed her back. She threw her body back and gave him a look of panic. She then went limp. We ran downstairs, called 911 while I gave her mouth to mouth.

They got there quickly and rushed her to ER and it took them 27 minutes to revive her. They give up on children at 30 minutes. She had a mucus blockage in her airwave and we later found out that she went into cardiac arrest.

At 4:00 am (Sunday) I rode in the ambulance to Toronto Hospital For Sick Kids. It was a rough day of keeping her balanced etc.

B/c she wasn't breathing for so long, there was significant brain damage. They tried everything they could for her. In the end, we found out that she had RSV and the mucous was building up in her bronchial tubes etc, it becomes sticky and that is what caused her to stop breathing.

They did the tests to test for brain stem activity and she failed all of them. The pronounced her dead at 12:40pm on Monday the 12th. We gave consent for organ donation but in the end she was denied as a candidate b/c of the RSV etc.

So, at around 1:00 am (now Tuesday), I held her in my arms as they took the breathing tube out and she passed away. She is with Abba now and Jesus is taking good care of her now.

I just wanted to let you all know. We are doing a gift donation to the Sick Kid's Hospital instead of flowers at the funeral on Thursday. We are devestated and go in waves of acccepting it, to wondering why her?

Please pray for the next few days as we have so much to do etc. I thank each of you in advance for your support, prayers and words of encouragement through this very difficult time for us.

Blessings,

Denise
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OMG! This so soo freaking sad! I will for sure be praying for you and your family!@

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I am so sorry for your loss, mama.
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Oh, mama... I am so so sorry for your loss.
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Hang in there momma!! I will be thinking about your family!!
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Denise,
I am truly sorry that this has happened to your family. Bless you and Ruby, her sister and father. And much love to you all, you will be in our thoughts
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I am so sorry Denise My thoughts are with you and your family. Much love
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not in your ddc but I couldn't read without offering hugs and prayers for you and your family
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I'm so very sorry.
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oh my goodness. i'm so, so very sorry mama. you'll be in my thoughts.
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OMG.... Oh mama...I don't know what to say. I am so sorry. Ruby is so beautiful--I just saw her picture in your siggy. I am so sorry.... :

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denise,
you and your family will be in my constant thoughts and prayers.

and i will light a candle right now for Ruby.
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Oh sweet baby... I have no words to express my sadness at your loss. I remember clicking on your signature a while ago, and the photo of your girls is so adorable, and it always reminded me of my sister and I.

Please let us know if there's anything we can do to help. My prayers to you and your family.


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Eager for a VBAC some time around April 10, 2010!
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I am so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of all of you.

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Oh mama! I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I'm not in your DDC, but I couldn't read without giving you hugs. I'm so sorry for your loss mama!

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i'm not in your DDC, but i just wanted to offer my prayers and thoughts for you and your family.
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Also not in your DDC, but I had to tell you that I'm so, so sorry for your loss...
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Found this by way of new posts. I am so sorry.

Will pray.

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I am so sorry for your indescribable loss, mama.
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I'm so completely shocked and sad for you and your family. My deepest condolences for your loss.
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Peace to you.
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Oh mama.. I'm so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of and praying for you and your family. If there is anything you need from any of us please don't hesitate to let us know.

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I'm not in your DDC but I had to post. I am so, so sorry for your loss. How devastating. Bless her heart.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I don't even know what to say that would do justice to how hard this must be for you and your family.

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Tears are streaming down my face thinking of your sadness and your tremendous loss. The loss of a child is the ultimate loss. I will be thinking of you and your family as you undertake this sad journey of grief together.
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i am so sorry for your loss....you will be in my prayers
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