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#1 of 17 Old 01-07-2007, 09:22 AM - Thread Starter
 
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anyone else?

I just don't know what has gotton into me! I have been so emotional/depressed the last few days...I know part of it is stress over a messy house, and maybe feeling a bit like I haven't had any time to myself or with DP, and a tad bit of resentment over his freedom, and fears over the future...but still!

It's really overwhelming to be on the verge of crying breakdowns like this! Anyone going through it, to commisserate or have any suggestions?
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I think it's common for pregnancy to escalate lots of emotions and be overwhelming at differnt times.

Maybe try getting out every day for a nice walk. It's good for you, good for the baby, and you'll be amazed at how much better you feel when you get back.

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I am doing okay this pregnancy, but man, when I was pregnant with Ani, I was a total emotional wreck for the first trimester. It was horrible. I felt like I had no control over anything and little itty bitty things would make me so mad and crabby. Poor DH. I think part of it was an unexpected pregnancy and part of it was just hormones and not being at all ready for feeling like that.

s I hope you feel better soon!
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I think it is really common. Try to lower your expectations on the house. Ask DP if he can help you out some if you're feeling yucky. And just 'ride' the first tri out. It should get better after that!

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I could have written your post. I took 2 online tests for depression last night and scored "badly" on both. Of course major measures include sleep and appetite changes, which in this case may have another cause. Still, DH and I have been fighting like cats and dogs -- the worst ever -- I resent his energy and his "fun" while I am sick as all get out and I am going through the most trying job search and I am so scared that the pregnancy will blow it all anyway. : DH suggested this morning that I go on anti-depressants, he is so desperate for me to stop being irritable at him. I just don't know how I/we will get through this.
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PiePie. That's exactly how I was with Ani. I was always so crabby at DH and just mean. And then I kept thinking about how pissy I was at him and how we couldn't possibly have a baby together because we just couldn't get along. It got a lot better after the first tri.
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PiePie, hugs! Today was much better...I think last night when I just went to bed rather than stay up and have us get into another frustrating moment helped (just avoiding the conflict) and also today DP helped me clean, and that helped TREMENDOUSLY! But I still feel upset at the slightest things, I'm just trying to minimize them.

Good luck with your job search, and try not to get to overwhelmed by it all! Let me know how you are tomorrow, we can help keep each other company!
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I just have to say. YES! Me too. I know a lot of it is because this pregnancy was not planned, but I am just so tired and irritable. It is tough. I just keep waiting, three more weeks or so, and I should feel better, I hope.

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Yes, except that most of the time I'm too tired from working full-time, mothering a rambunctious toddler when I'm home, and first-trimester fatigue, to even notice I'm an emotional wreck!
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I flung a pot of water against a door last night! I was SOOO sick and dh was just ignoring the girls, letting them watch TV all day. I came down around dinner time (was in bed most of the day, the first time EVER) and no dinner was being made. Then he made a remark about how difficult dd1 was being, and I lost it. I don't even get ONE day to be miserable! And it was like a serious burden for him to make some pasta and a salad.

I compare this to my pregnancy with dd1 when I was weepy all the time. I remember this frozen food display in the supermarket with a Mama and Baby Penguin, it was so touching to me I started sobbing in the frozen food aisle. Pathetic!!

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I had an emotional breakdown over the new rug I bought not totally matching my new couch. I mean I really cried over it.:
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I was just going to come on here and post something exactly like this.

I'm so unbelievably tired. The house is a mess and dh and ds are getting on my nerves. I feel totally guilty because I'm miserable and snapping at everyone and I have no patience. I'm never like this. Fortunately ds hasn't seemed to notice and dh is doing all he can but I feel like a dark cloud is on my head and won't go away no matter how much I sleep or rest. I just start crying for no apparent reason.

I hope this is gone in a couple of weeks.

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And then I kept thinking about how pissy I was at him and how we couldn't possibly have a baby together because we just couldn't get along.
did I write this?! this is exactly the way i think!

i get myself on this emotional train which just speeds faster and faster away from the station of Rationality...straight to crazy town.

i finally calmed down one day, then walked into the room where dh was and said, "i know i can be pretty intense right now, but i feel like i can't control it very well and since we're a team, i need you to take one for the team and try to be supportive, even if i'm being a b****." I love you and it's not about you.

i think i threw in something about hormones too.
That helped some.

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did I write this?! this is exactly the way i think!

i get myself on this emotional train which just speeds faster and faster away from the station of Rationality...straight to crazy town.

i finally calmed down one day, then walked into the room where dh was and said, "i know i can be pretty intense right now, but i feel like i can't control it very well and since we're a team, i need you to take one for the team and try to be supportive, even if i'm being a b****." I love you and it's not about you.

i think i threw in something about hormones too.
That helped some.
That is so great. I think I am goign to use that tonight.

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well, i had a crappy day today but i think it was a rational reaction to circumstance and not hormonal. dh and i have actually not fought for 2 days in a row, assuming i go to bed right now. this is great! he is not annoying me at all! he is being so good! or i am being so good! i want it to last because he goes away on a business trip soon.
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I signed on just looking for a post like this. My nausea has gone (replaced by food aversion and gagging when I eat- fun fun). But the last 3 days I have woke up feeling really depressed. This morning I cried because I felt lost and guilty- shouldn't I be so happy right now? Is my nonsensical sadness affecting the baby?

I have gone through periods of depression in my life before but not for a long time. I am scared that this is not going to go away, that I am going to have really bad PPD.

There is nothing at all wrong in my life. Sigh. I guess it is just the hormones and life changes. I have some time today so I am going to go to a yoga class and get out in the sunshine for a walk.

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I am there with you all. Last week I was in the hospital for hyperemesiss. My DH came with my DD for my discharge, handed her over to me and that was it. I drove her home, changed her, fed her, and played with her as much as I could, while he went and did errands for 2 hours. I was near tears by the time he got home. And then he asked me what was for dinner. Sure, I was hydrated enough to go home, but no way was ready to go back to full steam.

I've been the most royalest **tch since. It feels uncontrolable. And just this morning, DH suggested marriage counseling....

The surprise of a new baby, hormones and just plain feeling awful sucks.

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