I haven't had a shower with any of my kids. My best friend offered to throw me one with the last baby and even told lots of our coworkers that she would be the one planning it and then she flaked. And I mean, major flakeage. I left work for maternity leave and she blew the whole thing off. Mind you, we've been friends for 18 years. When another coworker asked her why there wasn't a shower, she told them that she figured since I had gone on maternity leave already, it was too late.
So this time around, no one had mentioned a shower at all, but that was what I was expecting. Then out of the blue, dh's coworkers decided they want to throw me one at the office! I was so excited!! My first shower!!! They set the date and then a week later I realize that it was one of the days I babysit for my mom. It's all good if I take my own 5 year old dd with, but no way can I take my neice and two nephews (ages 10, 7, and 5) as well because it's being held at the office. I called my mom to talk to her about it and explain that I can't take them, and if that's my only option I will have to miss the shoewr and dh will just bring home gifts. Her response: "Well at least they're still going to buy you stuff."
: My mom is a loner who refuses to make friends and we have no other family in town so I am her only babysitter. And these three kids are so horribly behaved that there is no way I would ask one of my friends to watch them. So dh is trying desperately now to see if there might be any way to reschedule for one of my days off.
And also on the subject of my mother and her lack of back-up sitters... She's known since I was three weeks pregnant what my approximate due date was. I told her asap so she could work on finding a sitter so I could have a little time off with baby in August. She called me last week all excited to tell me that she worked it out with her boss to take her whopping 4 days vacation time as soon as I go into labor. And she's even going to try to schedule it around her days off to give me a full ten days off. She's so proud of herself. So I said, "Well what if I go into labor and it stalls and doesn't pick up for a few days?" She says, "Well you better hope not because as soon as I start that vacation, your clock's a-tickin'!" When I told her that 10 days certainly wasn't much time to bond with a new baby, she says "I have faith in you, you're a tough girl. Besides honey, you KNOW you're all I have. You don't want me to lose my job do you? Then we'd all have to move in with you full time!!"
(For the record, I'm always asked why I let her walk all over me to such a degree. Truth of the matter is, when my father passed away nearly ten years ago, I promised him on his death bed that I would always take care of mom. And I really am the ONLY person she has to rely on right now. Wish I had known back then that she was going to adopt half of my sister's kids.
Whew, that was a long one. I feel a little better now. Yay for this thread, and