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My 10 yo dd was an only child for a long time with me as a stay at home doting mom. She is still not adjusting well to my 18 mo daughter.
She feels she is really getting a raw deal. I don't have help so I am at the stage where all my attention goes to watching my toddler - when my dh gets home we try to divide and conquer and on the weekends as well. I am still breastfeeding and practice AP so I am somewhat limited in the amount of time I'm willing to leave my baby. We go on special MDD -mother daughter dates once during the week and once on weekends and no matter what we do - it is not enough. She has huge sibling rivalry and literally acts like a 3 year old in many ways with the baby - won't let her touch her things etc.
Does anyone else have experience with this age gap with no kids in between. How do you ever find common ground and interests etc so we're not always dividing and conquering and so I can spend time with my husband as well? Will she always resent the baby and me for having her?
I have had one thousand talks with her about her feelings etc but it doesn't seem to help!
me-45, DH-46, ds1-23, ds2-18, dd1-17, dd2-14, dd3-4....hoping for #6.....