Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Chester County, PA, but I'd rather run free amongst the sheep
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I am looking for alternative methods of dealing with DS' attitude. Recently, he has been very contradictory. I am beginning to think that he'd argue about the color of the sky!
Yesterday was a perfect example. We were due for a family dinner out to celebrate my brother's birthday. DS did homework when he came home from school, so he was allowed to stay out playing until almost 5:00. When he got home he was so sweaty that his hair was soaked and his clothes were sticking to him. The conversation we had went something like this:
Me: Daniel, I'd like to you run up and take a shower before we go out to dinner. Then you can come down and play video games before we leave.
DS: I don't need one.
Me: You are very sweaty, and you'll feel more comfortable after you take a shower and put clean clothes on.
DS: (sweat dripping down his face) I am NOT sweaty.
Me: I can see sweat dripping down your face. Please go upstairs and take a shower.
DS: But I don't want one. I won't take one.
Me: Daniel, I don't want to have to say it again. I asked you to go take a shower. Please go up and do it.
Me: (raising my voice) Go take a shower and change.
He stomped up the stairs, and took a shower. Then, rather than come down to play video games, he sulked in his room. I ignored it - it is, after all, his prerogative to be unhappy. ( I should note that up until recently I would have let him draw me into an argument about why he shouldn't be sulking over something so silly, etc.)
I decided that it was better for me to let him work through his emotions himself, and that I would only comment on his behaviour if he was rude in any way. But, it's soooooo hard!
Anyone have any advice, input, etc? I'm trying to make a radical behavior change in myself, and only pick the worthwhile battles, so any advice on calming myself down would be appreciated also!