My 12 y.o. has a few close friends, many aquaintances, and is very outgoing. But I notice that when she is around her friends, she gets very talkative, to the point of sometimes being obnoxious. She interupts her friends, doesn't seem interested in what they have to say, and tells long, drawn-out stories that are obviously boring to the other kids. She can be a sweet and empathetic friend, but I'm noticing this overbearing behavior more and more often. She isn't like this when she talks with me or her step-father or other adults.
I talked to my brother about this--he knows her well --and he thinks it will resolve itself as she gets older and becomes less self-involved. He thinks that if I mention it, she will be crushed (she is sensitive). I do sometimes (when appropriate and in a light-hearted way) point out when she's interrupting or being rude to her friends. But since I only see this behavior when her friends are around it's hard for me to tactfully point it out. Lately she hasn't been getting as many phone calls or invitations, and I'm pretty sure that it's because of her behavior.
Should I talk to dd about this? Or just wait and hope that her social skills improve with age?