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When my son started smoking pot and I knew about it I worked very hard to get him back into a hobby he loved as a little boy- fishing. I offered to drive him to the lake, any lake, if I had time, bought him fishing stuff, and my boyfriend even bought an old fishing boat that needs work. I made it clear that now was the time to develop good hobbies and ways to relieve stress. I told him that as a teenager he is developing habits that could be hard to break and that addictions are a monkey on his back. He had to go to court ordered treatment for a time (for something alcohol related) and that turned out to be a blessing in disguise because he was getting pee tests and couldn't smoke. He finished treatment and now he could, but I don't think he does. He'd rather fish, hike, camp, work on our boat, ect.
Hopefully your daughter won't have legal problems like my son, but I really feel that pulling him very close, spending lots of time doing what he wants to do, and not smoking for awhile cleared his head and helped. And keep on talking- I am amazed some of the things Noah has shared with me during our long drives to go fishing and even while I am sitting there reading while he fishes.
Hang in there- I know it's hard.
The notebook was lying open, that's not snooping.
Have an open, honest, frank discussion with her about it - and tell her that you read her notebook, and how you found it.
So weird that this thread was commented on today...
DD and all these kids are on a 10 day wilderness trip with the school. They carry 50 pounds all day, sleep under tarps, have a solo. Yesterday we received a wonderful note from DD via the dean who did a resupply at a trailhead.
Today, I'm gathering laundry from all rooms and a notebook is lying open on DD's floor. BIG CAPS..."I SMOKED POT TODAY." F#$@K.
I've always had a no-snoop policy with the exception of suspicion of harm to others or self.
My family, including me, has a history of addictive behaviors. Mine being pot. I can deal with alcohol...take it or leave it, but I cannot be around pot. I'd smoke every day all day if it was available. So I consider this to be a harmful behavior.
Took the notebook and read it.
The day she asked permission to go to this kid's house, they all got high.
Next day, she went to BFF's house. The one I know so well. They went to H's house and got high.
I need to state clearly here....I am NOT interested in a debate about pot. This is what so many threads have devolved to.
If you think pot smoking among teens is harmless, please don't bog down the thread. I need support from parents who understgand that it's not inevitable or harmless or a teen right of passagge.
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