I am posting here because I am stumped about what to do.
Our daughter will turn 8 in a few weeks. We homeschool her. But we live in a neighborhood full of children, and our daughters favorite friends in the neighborhood are three fourth grade girls who go to the local public school.
The situation that is coming up involves two girls, called A and B for the purposes of this post. A and B live next door together and are good friends with each other.
A and B come to our house a few times a week, usually knocking on the door and asking to play. They sometimes come together, sometimes separately. The girls usually play with makeup, dress up, and they are currently writing a play together.
Girl A has in the past tried to frighten our daughter with stories about her dead grandfather living in OUR house and so forth. I didn't give this much thought, just told our dd it was nonsense and silly.
But the next act by Girl A has me concerned. Girl A told my daughter that Girl B actually "can't stand" our daughter and that Girl B "hates" our daughter, and that Girl B only comes to our house because of Girl A. After hearing that, our daughter decided Girl B should no longer come to our house or to her birthday party, which is coming up in a few weeks.
I believe that Girl A is just jealous about Girl B being friends with our daughter. But I don't know. I don't know their mothers well -- they seem very mainstream and they are 15-20 years younger than I am.
Honestly, I do not know how to handle this stuff. Our daughter is very sad, because she thought Girl B liked her.
Our homeschooling friends say that we should simply avoid these kids, but our daughter is an extravert and she really likes both girls, plus all the kids play together in our neighborhood. The second grade girls, whether homeschool or public school, do not seem to like our daughter very much, and they rarely reach out to her.
OK, so please help me out. To make matters worse, there is an annual Halloween party across the street where the neighbor invites almost all of the kids in the neighborhood except for ours. I don't know how to handle that, either.