Now I have received an invitation for her second son's 18th birthday. I could attend but I won't be able to give him $50. I presume he too will go to college next year but not sure our circumstances will change much by then.
Of late for any occasion I have been giving baked goods or paintings made by my daughter. Other adults enthusiastically appreciate this since they aren't looking for gifts anyway. For a child's birthday I would not do this but give a present costing about $10.
But I have no idea what I could give an 18 year old boy that would be within $10. Anything like a gift certificate or a check, I feel, should be the same as what I gave his brother 2 years ago. She has 7 children so probably I should have thought more carefully 2 years ago before writing the amount on the check.
I don't think it is appropriate for me to ask my friend about this. Hence wondering if you all would have any ideas.
Though I am close to my friend, and have often attend the birthdays of her younger kids who are closer to my kid's age, I don't think our absence from her son's 18th birthday bash will be very much noticed. Probably he will be busy with all his friends of his own age and my friend has invited me out of courtesy. The distance (in miles) is enough that we would not be assumed to attend.
Is it better to
- send a greeting card only (home-made)
- send some kind of gift (not cash / gift certificate) within the amount I can afford
- send a gift certificate of $10
Just bring a nice, thoughtful card, and whatever gift you can afford. If it's only $10, make it a GC to someplace fun like tropical smoothie cafe or starbucks or something.
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I am *really* behind the times, so can you tell me if itunes is something *every* teen would use? Can I jsut assume that an itunes gift certificate would be useful or is it better to ask first?
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