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♥ blogger astrologer mom to three cool kiddos, and trying to figure out this divorce thing-- Blossom and Glow ♥
My advice may not work for you at all. But, honestly, I'd let him get whatever kind of grades he wants to at school, let him do his teeth and hair his own way (or not), and just focus on chores. Actually, if it were me I'd pull him out of school and deschool followed by unschool or homeschool him, but since you are working you may not be able to do that. The best way to learn life's lessons is through natural consequences. Education is only meaningful and useful when it is appreciated-- and you cannot force appreciation. Also I would only get him braces if he wants them.
It just seems to me the young man has very little meaningful choice in his life-- which is normal for a mainstream teen, but I disagree with it.
Again, may not be helpful to you at all, but that's my take!
|I hate to make him sit out because the season is based on points and each round you go, you earn points. Those points determine if you qualify for certain races....so I could be damaging his chances to compete later in the year.|
I think my brother was like this at the same age and my mother didn't ban things, she just stopped putting in her effort. She didn't get him up anymore. She told the school detention would have to be when he could get himself there. She stopped cooking for him if he hadn't helped with the pre-dinner chores. She stopped washing his stinky worn-for-a-week pants and underwear. He spent about a month having a big long low level tantrum about it, which she ignored, and then he realised that all he had to do is be a reasonable person and pull his weight. I'd be lying if i said it turned him into a model citizen, but it did stop him taking such blatant advantage of his home situation without any thought.
This could actually be slightly enjoyable if you have that type of evilness in you.... which I totally do!
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