I think this is a great discussion!
I wonder if the OP's DD was only telling him that she wanted the BC because of period issues to make him feel better about it? And then when she was in to see the pediatrician, she was more honest about it? Or maybe the converse, and she was trying to shock the pediatrician because she resented being taken to a pediatrician? He knows her best.
That said, my DD, who just turned 15, has been on BC for about 6 months. She's taking it for cycle control, because since she got her period just after she turned 10, her periods have been awful ordeals, and have gotten a bit heavier in the last year or two. We did Chinese herbal tea when she was about 11 - worked like a charm for two years (yes, just the one 3-day round!). But when we tried it again last year, it didn't really help. The first BC she tried was awful because she ended up spotting heavily all the time (so instead of 1 1/2 periods a month, she had a continuous light period). So she switched to a different one and now she is doing very well. She's obsessive about taking it at the exact same time every day. And her acne has cleared up completely, a bonus for her, though she cares little about it.
In her case, I know it's not about sex because she doesn't really have friends, never mind boyfriends. And we had "the talk" when she was 13 and asked how she would get "sex ed" if she was homeschooling.
So I proceeded to give her "sex ed": anatomy, female cycle, sperm production, conception, basic idea of STDs, pregnancy and STD protection... the whole nine yards. She also knows that she was an "oops" baby (I was 19 when I conceived), and I've often quoted Roseanne to her: An accident is something you don't want to happen, but a *surprise* is something you didn't even know you wanted until it happened. While also pointing out that my life got rather derailed and didn't go quite as planned. Good in the end, but bumpy bus ride to get there...
I think it's really wonderful that the OP's daughter is comfortable enough to approach him about it. I was too shy to say anything to my mom (or even to make a doctor's appointment) and talking to my dad would have been completely out of the question. And this is despite the fact that my mom had talked to me about sex early on and would have been open to my asking her for anything I might have wanted.
Originally Posted by Violet2
How many people do you know who married the guy they met when they were 14?
Interestingly, my ex-SIL married the boy she started dating in Gr. 10 (based on one of those silly "matchmaker" survey things) and they now have 3 children, a Masters degree each and a huge house. But yes, very uncommon!