My dd is just heading into puberty.
She's always had a boy she likes, since K and so far it's only been 2, and she still writes and calls the first one. I like this about her very much - the longevity.
She has also always felt very comfortable with her body, so I feel great about allowing her to develop confidence, by modeling comfort with my own body - naked is ok.
We were reading a book called Questions about sex and growing up. When we got to the part about masturbation, she said "I do that!" and I said, "that's great honey" and left it at that. on other occasions, she was reading my old copies of Hip Mama and came across one about the purple friend or something - it was about a vibrator. she was blushing and asked if she should be reading it. I said if you want to, there's nothing wrong with it, let me know if you have questions. We watched the original Parenthood movie a few weeks back and we got to the vibrator scene so she was laughing but not sure what it was. I said it's a toy older people use to make there genitals feel really good.
The other day when she was in the tub, she was pouring water on herself and laughing and said "it makes my pee pee feel really good RIGHT HERE!" I said "yes it does, lots of women use water to make themselves feel good, but ya know, I don't really want to watch, ok?"
So I like how are discussions are going, but I feel really awkward, even though I want it to be this open.
I don't know what exactly I am asking for, but those of you who have gone through this stage, what can you tell me about making it easier for me? I have an easy time talking with my own mom, my friends, but I'm having a tough time - maybe because I have an abuse history?
Heather, mama to Harriet, Crispin, in with Tom and 2