I don't know if I'm posting this in the right place, but DD and I butt heads a lot, and the majority of the time, I find that it's about food. As much as I'd love us to be a super-healthy sheltered family, we're not. DD goes to public school and is allowed to buy lunch twice a week. I know those school lunches are garbage, but she has early days twice a week for band, and is lugging a heavy instrument and her book bag, so it's easier for her.
What I'd like her to do is pack a sandwich, a snack, fruit and a treat. That seems reasonable to me. However, I notice that any snack I buy (i.e. goldfish crackers) is gone in a matter of days because she packs a HUGE bag and says, "You don't understand how hungry I get." She refuses to take fruit, because she says it gets "gross" by the time she's ready to eat it at lunch, even if she packs it with an ice pack. She puts a piece of lunch meat in a bag because she says she hates sandwiches. So basically her lunch consists of a piece or two of lunch meat (which I' don't even think is healthy) and all carbs and junk food.
I've threatened to stop buying any junk food at all if she can't eat it in moderation, but then DH gets upset that we have no chips or anything.
I also have a 16 month old, and DH and I both work, so things are crazy around here, and I'm not always around to be policing her lunch-packing and after school snacking. Oh, and she also says to me at dinner, "Why do you always have to make food that I hate?" She also claims to hate all breakfast foods now, such as eggs, oatmeal, etc. and will only eat flavored cream of wheat or will skip breakfast altogether. I know that she uses all of her spending money on junk food from the snack cart at school or from vending machines, etc.
This is a girl who ate tofu, black beans and avocado slices as a toddler without batting an eyelash. I bake and cook from scratch, and feel like my only downfall is keeping snack/junk foods around. My hope was that they would be an incentive for her to pack lunches so I wouldn't have to keep paying for her to eat the unhealthy school lunches.
I've talked to her about nutrition until I'm blue in the face. Both of my parents died of cancer, and she knows that. I talk about diabetes, heart disease, obesity (though she's very thin), etc, and try to scare her, because I'm a nurse, but her response to that is always very short-lived.
So what do I do? Turn my home into a nutrition boot-camp this summer to de-tox her? Then what happens when she starts school in the fall? We've also tried making lists of healthy breakfast, lunch and snacks she likes and posting that on the side of the fridge, but that didn't help either. I'm SO frustrated, and worried about her health!