My dd, 8, is a very outgoing, very social girl. She makes friends everywhere, all the time, happy and funny, etc. Kids really like to be around her. One of her friends is my ds's classmate (almost 11) -- she lives close to us, and USED to be at our home all the time. This little girl is very, very smart, and is really pleasant around us, but for whatever reasons, she doesn't have a lot of friends. Recently a girl the same age as dd moved in across from us, and dd spends a lot of time playing with the girl -- the older friend has given her the cold shoulder since. My dd is pretty confused about it all, as she can't see that she's done anything wrong (and she hasn't).
I told her that sometimes there are girls that will want her to be their only/best friend; MOST girls won't be like that, but it does happen. I also told her that she can choose her friends and doesn't have to apologize to anyone for having a variety of friends.
She feels bad, as if she's responsible for making the older girl somehow turn on her. I would love to give her some way to map it out, or to make better sense of it for her, but I don't know what to tell her. She's really tender-hearted and the situation is really hard for her
Any thoughts on how to put things in perspective or words of wisdom I can share with her?