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I cried too. I had a clear sense that my childhood was gone.
My DD is 4. I plan on being positive about it and helping her through it in a way that I didn't feel I had at the time. I will introduce early the idea of a menstrual cup like the Diva Cup, since now that I'm a mother I use every month to the total exclusion of tampons or pads. I LOVE IT! I also like the idea I read in Mothering of a regular "spa night" with the girls at home and a kit you make up of all the make-up, nail polish and special soaps, candles, etc. If we haven't started it by the menses onset, that will be my go-ahead time to start it.
Maybe read a little of Joseph Campbell. I read a synopsis of his view of menses being a rite of passage and that it's important to undergo something that you cannot control (isn't that the nature of the universe--we can't control it?) Maybe this is why as adults we are able to mature into accepting reality.
I would love to see a Waldorf-based description of girls at this age and how we can help them whether they get it at the earlier age or the later age. I'm sure there is a significant difference between the beginning and the end of the age range, in how it affects the girl. If anyone has something like this, please tell me!!