First, let me say it wasn't my teenager, and my teen wasn't even in the country when this happened.
My dd's friend has been extremely sheltered her whole life. She was never allowed to even walk to the school bus stop by herself until her junior year in high school. Then, after 16 years of keeping her on a short leash, they suddenly let it go. She's gone a little nuts with her newfound freedom.
She's been drinking for a while now. Only once (that I know of) they did something very, very dangerous. But, I didn't get involved. Maybe I should have. (a group of friends got drunk, then went walking three miles away and accepted a ride from a stranger who drove them another seven miles in the wrong direction before dropping them off in front of a store)
Anyway.. last week, she got drunk again. They had two designated drivers who stayed sober. She was so drunk that some man took her into the men's restroom at Mcdonalds and held her head in the toilet so she could throw up. Then Mcd's kicked the kids out because she was so obnoxious. The other kids were trying to sober her up. Eventually they took her home and she tried to get in her own truck. (the friends took her keys home with them so she couldn't drive)
She passed out in her kitchen floor, and the 12 yr old found her and tried to wake her up. The 17 yr old was still Yakking all over her house, so the 12yr old woke up Dad. Dad helped her, and got her through the night, but then in the morning woke her up and made her do yardwork all day. LOL (but, it was 114 degrees this weekend)
Anyway... obviously, she could have easily died. She could have had alcohol poisoning, or been hurt or taken advantage of at the party. She was very fortunate to have friends who kept a close eye on her. But, they are also teens... so, they can't be held responsible.
Mom wants her to move out. Dad wants to send her to some cabin in the middle of Wisconsin, Grandma thinks they are being too harsh.
I have no idea what I would do in the same situation.
What would you do?
*background.. mom and dad are divorcing. They just lost their business, and are losing their home in about two months. So, this is not the only family crisis.