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me-45, DH-46, ds1-23, ds2-18, dd1-17, dd2-14, dd3-4....hoping for #6.....
I only have one. I always wanted at least one more. But, never did.
Now, I am 46 yrs old. My daughter is 18, my step daughter is 23. I moved on completely. The thought of sitting in a park waiting for a turn at the jumping house, or bringing home a plastic bag full of little toys just doesn't even appeal to me any more.
I miss those days, but I never want to go back. The only time I wish I'd had one more child is when I think of my daughter never having a sibling to call, or to help her when I need special care. There's nobody to tag team with when it's time to put the parents in a home. LOL
I don't long for the baby I never had. I don't ever want to do it again, even though I loved it more than anything in the world. I just don't long for it.
...and truthfully, raising a teenager is nowhere near as fulfulling as raising a young child. I'm glad I only have to go through this once...
|I could not possibly disagree more. Parenting my teenager has been a wonderful, surprisingly blessed time for me, especially after years of hearing things like this, which made me fearful.|
Thank you for all your responses so far!
I am only 25 - so I feel pretty young for this to be 'it'. But DH is 37 and feels 'old' already and wants to be able to play with his children for years to come - I can respect that point of view as well I guess (cause if our ages were reversed, I would feel similar). We have two beautiful and healthy boys and I love them both to bits and the age gap is working out fantastically so far - so if we were to have another, I would shoot for a similar age gap - that puts me at being 30 the 'next time around'.
I know everyone says 'you are still young - theres plenty of time!'...but its more down to that fact that I am lucky even to have two because DH really does not want more children. In the end, I only have two because he wanted me to be happy - and for him, that was the only reason to agree to have another child ...because I really wanted another child (we may have never even had children if DS1 wasn't a bit of a surprise - he changed me so much and I never knew that I would feel this way. I fell into the mothering role quickly and very well and in love with it!).