So in the NPR article they feature a scenario that's virtually the same as mine: I'm concerned about about my 15 year old daughter's homework habits. When dd says she's doing homework, sometimes she's actually on Facebook, Hulu, Youtube or simply texting like there's no tomorrow.
Kastner responds that this 'low-level lying' to get out of trouble is common and normal. [Me: doesn't make it alright. But I'll let that go for now.]
She says that whether kids are high or low achievers, academics are the one of the most common things for families to fight about.
|Most teenagers are going to flip back and forth to Facebook while doing their homework, unless parents enforce an electronic-free policy -- as in, no phones, no TV, no social networking. Teenagers have a tough time -- just like adults -- fighting some of their temptations.
If the child is doing well academically, then leave it alone. It might take that child five hours to finish her homework rather than two. But she might say, "This is the way I want to do it because I can tolerate homework if I'm chatting with my friends online."
If your kids says they really need to go online to do homework, then she recommends you offer, for example, 90 minutes of electronic-free time. Then you know you have some high quality concentration.
And my laptop's about to die, but I'll just say that I like this a lot and will be implementing something like this with dd this year.
Thoughts? Objections? Agreements?
Edited to add, regarding the title of this thread (and the article), homework and dd's relationship with the internet is definitely the source of a fair amount of drama.