I am being serious when I say that I feel sorry for him. He is 13. The next youngest is 9, then 7, then 4. So he's kind of up there in age compared to the others. So, today, after going to the mechanic, we went to Moe's (if you don't know what that is you are really missing out, YUMMMMYYYY). We decide to eat outside, but with our brood, we need two tables. Most places around here don't have tables for 6. So we put the three younger ones at one table and then me, dh, and dss at the other. 7yr. old dd starts in at that point. "Can I sit over with you mommy?" I said "No, your at the kid's table". At which point 9yr old ds starts in, "Then why is G over at the ADULT table?" I said, "Because G isn't as young as you three". At which point ds4 starts in, "But mommy, I'm big boy mommy, can I sit with you?" "No baby, you stay with sissy and bubby" "G's my bubby too mommy, can I sit with that bubby?" So, at any rate, this goes on for a while and dss is getting more and more uncomfortable every minute. So finally I tell everyone that these seating arrangements are final and to eat.
So, this is dss's constant state of being, too young to be considered an adult, too young to be considered a little kid. His attitude is showing this strain too. He will smart off because he thinks he knows better how to handle the little ones, then he'll turn around and start arguing with the 4 yr. old. It's like he's caught between two worlds. Seriously, I have no clue what to do to help him out, or put him in the place, and most times I don't know which one needs to be done. Anyone else in this sort of position? Friendly advice, maybe just a been there, done that it gets better, anything?
Wife to dh since 1999, stepmom to dss (13 yrs. old), mom to ds (9 yrs. old), dd (7 yrs. old), and ds (4 yrs. old)