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#1 of 7 Old 02-09-2011, 04:34 PM - Thread Starter
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What are some books you have read and recommend on raising teenagers?  I would love to know, because I need all the help I can get.  Thanks!

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While not teen specific I really love this book and have seen the author speak on a number of occasions:


Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys


This another book while not teen specific is great on raising boys:


Real Boys : Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood 


I also love this book and there is a version specific to teens:

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk
I don't have a teen but have heard this book mentioned a number of times at school functions- can't validate the content tho, so you might want to research.....
Staying Connected To Your Teenager: How To Keep Them Talking To You And How To Hear What They're Really Saying

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I mostly read girl book like "Reviving Ophelia" because my eldest is a girl. I second "Raising Cain." I also liked "The Men they Will Become" but I can't remember the title. Both books said mostly the same thing.

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There's one called Wild at Heart (I think) that is really good. It's written by a Christian author, but it's about how boys need to be kind of wild sometimes and our culture has taken that away from them in many ways.


Another really good one is The 5 Love Languages for Teens. It's the same premise of the 5 love languages book, but geared toward adults.


If you're looking for more parenting-type books, then Parenting with Love and Logic is fantastic. It works for kids of any age, and it has a simple parenting method that is easy to put into place and stick with.

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Thank you so much!  I will check those out.  I have read several books on raising boys in general, like the Wonder of Boys, and I believe the other one was Raising Cain.  I just feel like I need some extra information specific to teens now.  It's so much harder than I thought!

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Hold On To Your Kids

Boys Adrift

Beyond Logic, Consequences and Control

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I have a 13.5 year-old ds (and 10 year-old ds) and I was just coming to this forum to ask the same question!


I have two books on my nightstand on teens that I'm just starting to explore --


1)  Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers by Michael Riera, PhD.  I ordered this from the Mothering website

2)  Between Form and Freedom -- Being a Teenager by Betty Staley - I found this book at Steiner Books


The first book is geared more towards high school students, and my ds just started middle school.  The author recommends "Forget heart-to-heart talks -- communicate indirectly; let your teenager brood; resist giving advice, even when your teenager asks for it; and embrace enstrangement".


The second book has an anthroposophical, Waldorf education bend to it, if you appreciate that.


Hope you find a book that speaks to you!


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