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Old 09-13-2011, 09:10 AM
 
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NO! I don't want this! Someone has to have a good teenager story? PLEASE!

Lol, of course we do but this was a vent post to blow off steam not a brag thread. Posting to someone having issues that your child is wonderful is just annoying lol. Yes, My DD 14 is a great kid. She's high achieving. Very responsible and dedicated to her school work as well as her part-time job. She has a long list of parents begging to hire her as a babysitter. She's talented but humble. She's welcoming and has a talent for putting others at ease. She's great with her brother 95 percent of the time. She's clever and witty and easy to laughter. She gives her whole heart to her friends. Everything she does outside the house gets 100 percent. I hear nothing but how wonderful she is from teachers, staff, other parents.

She just wasn't much fun for me between the ages of 13.5 and 14.25. All kids go through their crap whether it's at 12 or doesn't happen until they leave for college. Never met a sole that didn't. It hurts like a bugger when you go through it but you console yourself with those that have been there. You hug your own mother tighter as she laughs at how YOU were the same way. You just bundle up and wait out the storm.

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Old 09-13-2011, 09:13 AM
 
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Oh I realize they are just stories, I just wanted to hear that these kids also do some great things. My kids, can drive me batty and I remember my sister and I being rather interesting little snots. I just don't want double pay back!
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I remember my sister and I being rather interesting little snots. I just don't want double pay back!


My kids are not as bad as either my DH or I were as teens. DH and I were both complete hellions,  and we are very grateful for recessive genes. thumb.gif

 


but everything has pros and cons  shrug.gif

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Oh good, DH was a little thug, pretty funny now when I think about it. I didn't know him then but if any of his old friends met him now they would think they were talking to Ghandi. I was just sneaky! And mouthy. My sister was a monthly runaway... she always went to a funner house, can't blame her. My brother... he's still a hellion at 33!
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Lol, My girls are amazing, really. They have these moments, however that simply leave me like this: uhoh3.gif

 

They are quite creative, very funny and so unique. It is just this age that keeps me on my toes.

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NO! I don't want this! Someone has to have a good teenager story? PLEASE!


Dd (11) is moody right now. That means that she is ecstatically happy alternating with everything being the worst. Everything right now just has exclamation points.

It is an exciting and trying time period for all of us.

She is almost as tall as me but is still a kid.

 

 


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Hugs mama!  I agree it isn't just girls.  My 12 year old DS drives me insane more days then not.  I swear if the sky was blue and I said wow look at the blue sky he would say its not blue.   Every little thing I say he argues with.  He will still be my mama's boy from time to time, but mostly he is full of attitude.  I to am hoping it is a phase that ends real quick!

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NO! I don't want this! Someone has to have a good teenager story? PLEASE!

lol.gif OK, as hard as it can be, there are times when I see a shimmer of light at the end of the tunnel. Yesterday, I took ds1 out for a decaf coffee so we would just have some mom/son time. We actually had a really nice talk about how he didn't make the soccer team. He said, "I was disappointed when I saw the list, but then I thought, 'I'm going to Disney World in a few days! I've got my viola to play after school. I've got my mom to take me out to coffee! How many kids have that?! And I felt better'." I had to turn my head really quickly so he wouldn't see that I got teary eyed.

Of course, as soon as we got home, he started complain that I asked him to empty the dishwasher, but there was a good 20 minutes there where he was a really nice person to be around! lol.gif

 
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I think I would prefer it if my almost 12yo dd were always difficult.  But she is really sweet when I am spending money doing special for/with her.  A meal/treat out, or shopping for things she wants/needs always makes her pleasant, but it actually makes me feel worse because I feel I am buying pleasant behavior.

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I discovered this pre-teen/early teen behavior many years ago; it is why I no longer teach middle school. There is a special gift awaiting those teachers. I am back with my high school kids and love it.

 

My kids are (girl)11 (this Sunday), (girl)13, and (boy)15. 90% of the time, they are wonderful to be with. We talk, do things, dance around, and have a great time together. Then there is the other 10%. Sigh. Two girls with mood swings is more than I can bear after a day of dealing with teenagers, LOL. But I also find that the 10% is usually caused by something else. I also know that it is natural to an extent. They have to break away from us, find their own way, etc.I remember those days well.

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yeah I remember being 12, my emotions were insane. I always felt like nobody in my house cared about how I felt. I remember crying for ever because my didn't think to pack my lunch when in reality I forgot to get it out of the fridge. I was so mad at her. I hated my parents always telling me what to do, when I thought I knew exactly what to do. Such a hard age.
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Oh good, at least I'm not alone... DD is only *starting* this journey, I'm not sure if I can make it another two years.  This, however, is a daily thing around here. I'm waiting for her to move on to the 'washing hair constantly' phase, because adolescence causes grease.  ICK!

 

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 I popped my head in to give her a towel. She was depressed  and sullen and says 'gloomy.gifI dont know why you love megloomy.gif'. I said 'I just doblowkiss.gif', then  I ask her if she washed her hair, to which she replied 'guilty.gifYeahguilty.gif'.  She gets out, I go to blow dry her hair and it doesnt smell like shampoo at all! I ask 'Did you wash your hair?', her reply was 'I forgot'.dizzy.gif

 

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