My dd has just turned 8. I've told her for years that when she is responsible enough to take care of herself and her things, do her work without me standing over her, etc, I would pierce her ears. She's been showing an incredible amount of maturity lately, so I think it's time. But, I would really like to make it more than just piercing her ears. We've been talking about puberty lately, and she's convinced her breasts are starting to grow a little bit (lol) and she just really wants to be treated as more of an adult. Now that's she's earned it, I'd really like to make it a part of a really big deal.
FAs, co-sleeping, babywearing, extended nursing, positive parenting, homeschooler
Kids step back and forth with maturity. Just when you are delighting in their self-reliance, honesty and responsibility, they hit a stage where they become secretive, eye-rolling, forgetful and remind you of how juvenile they still are. I'd be careful to celebrate exactly what her accomplishments are without tying it too much to "womanhood." She still has a long way to that point and you can't guaruntee that you'll treat her like an equal grown woman the next few years because you don't know how crazy she might get in those later tween/early teen years.
DD was 9 and finally asked (which was a big deal because she HATES needles.) She was also at an age where I could trust her to take care of them. Just the action of having it done and picking out earrings was special (and a good memory I have of when I had my done at age 12.) We went to lunch just the two of us (no boys) and it was a lovely and memorable girls day.
Maybe you could do something similar with more focus on sharing how proud you are of her current choices and behavior? If you really want it tied to womanhood, you could delay until her first period though that could still be years off. You could make it a page in her scrapbook or tie it with a little girls day with a couple close friends.
I'm not sure I'd do it at the same time as her period starting... it's a little overwhelming trying to get the hang of how often to change pads and all that, so it might feel like a lot all at once to have to stick to an ear-cleaning regimen as well.
I think going out to lunch is a nice idea... or maybe take her for somewhere you normally wouldn't, like a coffee/dessert place? My kids always feel like it's a huge treat if I let them have coffee (loaded with milk and sugar, of course) My daughter liked getting nail polish at a salon (I let her get that done when she got her glasses)
~Teresa, raising DS (Jan. 02) and DD1 (Jun. 04) and DD2 (Dec. 11) with DH.