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#1 of 22 Old 12-22-2011, 07:29 AM - Thread Starter
 
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After 15 years as a stay at home mom, I'm returning to the work force full time in January. I've been working very part time this last year, but none the less, this is a massive shift.

 

I'm very happy and excited. I always like my job, I just wanted to spend time with my kids when they were little. I didn't intend to spend as many years at home as I did. This really feels like the right time to go back, and the right position. The influx of income will be wonderful for my family at this juncture, as our kids are much more expensive than when they were small, and college is right around the corner. And I'm happy for me -- to use my education and skills and to be part of that other world again.

 

I'm wanting to both honor the time I spent at home while celebrating that it's coming to close. It almost feels like conflicting emotions. I'm so happy that I had so much time with my kids, and honestly, I'm also so happy that I'm going back to work. It's all good. It's the shift from one wonderful chapter of my life to a different chapter, which I also expect to be wonderful.


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YAY for you!  I hope you really enjoy it!  Everyone needs a change of pace and your kids got a lot of time with you.  That's pretty awesome.

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Congratulations!! What a wonderful experience to look forward to in the new year! Best wishes with it. 

 

 

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Congratulations.  I'm glad you found an opportunity when you were ready for it.

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This is fantastic, congrats on your new job! 

 

I felt similarly when I started working part-time a couple of years ago.  I was so happy that I had been able to stay home with my children and nurture them, but I was also so happy to have found a job and a new outlet for myself.

 

Enjoy your new job- I hope your transition is a smooth one!


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thank you for the kind words! 


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Congrats on this new chapter of your life! I've still got multiple small kids, geez one thing to think about when I spaced out the older ones some, but I returned to part time work 2 years ago, it was so nice to just do something different. 


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Congratulations! You are lucky to have had such opportunity - to stay home & work when you're ready to. I envy that! Right now I work part time at a job I like & I sometimes feel like I've got the best of both worlds - time for my kids & a satisfying job.
Good luck in your new position!
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Congratulations....and I find this inspirational.  I have been home for almost as long as you, and I anticipate returning to the work force w/in the next year or two.  I know how fortunate I've been, and how precious the time is.  I hope your return is a good one for you.  I'll look forward to updates (please!) about how the transition is going!

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Congratulations....and I find this inspirational.  I have been home for almost as long as you, and I anticipate returning to the work force w/in the next year or two.  I know how fortunate I've been, and how precious the time is.  I hope your return is a good one for you.  I'll look forward to updates (please!) about how the transition is going!

 

I started working on stuff about two years ago -- taking a couple of classes at a community college to update by computer skills, then taking a part time job only vaguely related to get something recent on my resume. It's been a process to get a real job after such a long break, esp because of the economy.

 

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Congratulations! You are lucky to have had such opportunity - to stay home & work when you're ready to.


Thank you. I'm not sure that "lucky" is the right word. Although there are elements of luck in anything, a lot of how things played out is because of choices I made. "Lucky" to me implies more that good stuff happened that was totally random and somewhat instant. It hasn't been random. I worked for this. I was ready to go back before now, but it wasn't the right time yet for my kids, and then even after they were ready, it was difficult to find a job.

 

I do feel fortunate for many things, even they fact that my marriage worked out and that we are really happy together, which is part of why staying home for 15 years was possible. But even that wasn't all "luck."


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Congrats Linda, I'm so exited for you! I think we all make our own luck if we both leave our eyes open to opportunity AND do the necessary work. It's wonderful that you are moving on to a new stage while acknowledging the ending stage:) that sounded so new-age-e LOL sorry. Congrats again &I hope you'll still be around. Your advice has been invaluable to me.

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Congratulations! I am on a similar journey... smile.gif

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 Congrats again &I hope you'll still be around. Your advice has been invaluable to me.
 


 

thank you. innocent.gif

 

I'm sure I'll still be around, though I may be here a lot less.  I suspect that this change will raise a whole bunch of new issues to post about on this forum! 


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Linda, I didn't mean to diminish your accomplishments with the use of the word "lucky"! Although, in my own life I do feel luck plays a part - right place, right time type of thing - and that some parts of our journey are outside of our control. But, I also recognize the impact our choices have on our lives, as well as the hard work involved in achieving our goals! Just want to say congratulations on starting a new chapter in your life! It seems your hard work has payed off & you are in a great place, which is wonderful. I always enjoy your posts - let us know how it goes!
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Congradulations, Linda. I am at a similar stage (back in the work force after so many years home with kids and my mother) and I find it so fullfilling. Part of it is that I have a truly great job, but also I am at a place to appreciate it. This is the most content I have ever felt. I wish the same for you!


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Congrats!  Take it easy on yourself the first few weeks (not trying to be a downer, just know full time work can be exhausting).

 

What type of job is it, if you don't mind sharing?

 

 

 

 

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I'm starting a new job on Thursday after being home for 15 months, not nearly as long, and I felt all crazy getting up this morning to do the walk-through training with the nanny! I think I forgot how to go to work! But isn't it exciting?! I can't wait!

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I start in a couple of hours and I'm a little nervous.

 

I do think I've forgotten how to go to work, and I've never tried to do with kids to get off to school, pets to see to, etc. My life is a lot more complex than it was last time I had a full job.

 

It's a technical writing job work for a manufacturer of computerized large equipment, which oddly similar to the kind of work I did before I had kids. The pay, benefits, and time off are super. The people seem nice. It should be fairly low stress. thumb.gif


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Soooo, how did it go Linda?

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It's fine so far. Every one is pleasant, I've filled out zillions of forms, and am set up on my computer/email/phone/filesharing/etc. There is a TON of set up.

 

My kids are adjusting just fine. They each have a chore list after school, which is new, and I'm checking their jobs when I get home. I've really neglected to teach my kids some basic life skills, so we are playing catch up in this area. But it's a good thing -- my job is forcing our family into better balance. thumb.gif


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Update --

 

We've had one major snafu so far. The kids (who both have keys to the house) locked themselves out. They left a note on door saying they went back to school. When I went to their school, they weren't there and no one remembered seeing them after school. Turns out they went to a friends house (on the other side of town) and didn't think we needed that information. They both have cell phones with unlimited texting (one of which was out of charge).

 

So DH and I kinda lost it.

 

We've changed a bunch of things -- we now have a special place to put keys and charge cell phones, which I check at bedtime. They text me when they get home. They are to text me if there is any change in their plans, as they now understand that I need to know where they are every minute of every day, which they really didn't know.

 

It all seems so .... what's a better word that "stupid"?..... to me. But they truly lacked the life experience to understand that leaving a note on the door saying you are one place and then not being there would send mommy into complete panic mode.

 

They get it now. It won't happen again.


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Oh that must have been scary & infuriating! Glad it's all worked out now. There are always adjustments to make & so often things that are so obvious to us they have no frame of reference for. One thing at a time! wink1.gif

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