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All three of mine play minecraft, but my son plays the most. He has Autism and I find that he socially comes out of his shell so much more while playing on MC. He talks to his friends over the mic (Xbox 360) and he really gets into it. They create giants worlds, work together and have to problem solve. When people ask what minecraft is I explain that its like digital Legos, only more. Our stipulation is that when we say its time to turn it off, there is no fighting. All chores get done first and its played in my office, not in his bedroom.

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I'm a learning specialist and educational therapist for K-8. I work with kids in school and in my private practice. I've never seen such a dramatic impact on kids as minecraft and other video games. For those of you who think it's harmless because of there is no violence just let your kid play it for a month or two. It is as bad as drugs for teenagers. Think about it. Does this sound like an addiction to you? Wake up and don't want to go to school, especially on Mondays, after playing all weekend. Could use it as a bribe for just about anything. You kid is thinking and talking about it at school during lunch and recess on a daily basis. Your kid can't wait until school is over because they might be able to play. Your kid would choose minecraft over just about any other daily activity. Your kid begs to play. Your kid goes into a trance and can't hear you talking to them, often not responding. Your kid gets very cranky when you tell him or her to stop playing and when you don't allow them to play. Pretty soon your kid doesn't want to do school work, or read, or even play with neighborhood friends. And, when they get older, they want to move onto more intense video games. I have seen kids who think about it first thing in the morning, all day at school, and obsess over playing it after school. I know it sounds extreme, but some of these kids end up in therapy, basically because of minecraft. But the true test of addiction? Try taking it away.

This is the type of behavior I am noticing. How would you describe it? Anhedonia? neurovegetative? It almost looks like clinical depression without the depressed mood.

My theory is that the geometric shapes (cubes) flashing at 15 hz is coded from the visual cortex then distributed to the rest of the brain by the association cortex. The cubes are quickly recognized as the brain has patterns encoded for geometric objects. This alpha-wave frequency interrupts the sleep/wake cycle and thereby depresses neurotransmitter levels. No data. Just hypothesis. Regardless, the effects are well described by people here.
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This alpha-wave frequency interrupts the sleep/wake cycle

 

Sleep/wake cycle interrupting resulting in sleep problems?  Is that what you mean?  So these children would stay up late or sleep late or just generally be sleepy, or grumpy or manic or whatnot? 

 

That very well may be true.  My own son, however, didn't experience sleep problems when he was still playing Minecraft.  He's my best sleeper. Goes to bed and gets up when he needs to. It's amazing, really. 

 

He definitely has mood issues when he sits at a screen for too long.  He gets squirrely and pushy.

 

Plus, sleep 'experts' will tell you to avoid looking at bright lights after dark when you're trying to sleep.  That light is too stimulating for your brain. 


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This is the type of behavior I am noticing. How would you describe it? Anhedonia? neurovegetative? It almost looks like clinical depression without the depressed mood.
 

It's called being absorbed in something interesting, exactly like my mom when she is reading a book. lol.gif

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We have no electronic Sunday at our house- go to the park, read a book made out of paper, go for a bike ride, or play a board game--- no computer, ipod,ds,kindle, or tv before 7 pm--- try it
btw my kids are also minecraft addicts
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Hi

Well  guess im in the  minority here but I do believe the addiction some children have to this is a problem.

I have a son with apergers who is 8, 9 tomorrow who pays this game at the exclusion of lots of other things.... He will choose this over any going out opportunity, and chooses only friends who 'play the game' to come over... He, like many children with AS has addictions and this has become one... to the extent he will sneak down in the night to go on it.

I was initially so grateful that he was engaging with other kids through the interactive approach this game provides, but now with I had never seen it....Previously lego was his addiction and I was much happier with this.... even the noise of this game winds me up and I realise some of the language and potential bullying online with this is a big issue...

I am not sure how I go about sorting this problem, because if he is addicted, in a way I have been the dealer... I would like to wean him off... but I honestly know this is going to be difficult.... I would strongly advise against buying this for any child who has compulsive disorders, and had I known how addictive it was going to become, and therefore in our household, life limiting....I would have definitely walked past the shop..

This game is also very frustrating, and its no good saying half an hr a day as the get onto a level and need to save it...

Some of you may think my views are extreme,and I know there will be children who can take it or leave it, but I also suspect for some of you my story resonates with one of your own x

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Hi

Well  guess im in the  minority here but I do believe the addiction some children have to this is a problem.

I have a son with apergers who is 8, 9 tomorrow who pays this game at the exclusion of lots of other things.... He will choose this over any going out opportunity, and chooses only friends who 'play the game' to come over... He, like many children with AS has addictions and this has become one... to the extent he will sneak down in the night to go on it.

I was initially so grateful that he was engaging with other kids through the interactive approach this game provides, but now with I had never seen it....Previously lego was his addiction and I was much happier with this.... even the noise of this game winds me up and I realise some of the language and potential bullying online with this is a big issue...

I am not sure how I go about sorting this problem, because if he is addicted, in a way I have been the dealer... I would like to wean him off... but I honestly know this is going to be difficult.... I would strongly advise against buying this for any child who has compulsive disorders, and had I known how addictive it was going to become, and therefore in our household, life limiting....I would have definitely walked past the shop..

This game is also very frustrating, and its no good saying half an hr a day as the get onto a level and need to save it...

Some of you may think my views are extreme,and I know there will be children who can take it or leave it, but I also suspect for some of you my story resonates with one of your own x

 

 

Language and bullying  -are any of the other kids that play online friends with him in real life?  If so, you can put the game on a private server for him and trusted friends to play on. They're still playing together over the internet, just not with God Know Who Else.  Yes, it probably means starting over with stats and stuff accumulated and so on.

 

Sneaking down at night -make the computer password protected. For a while our kids had to ask us to sign them on to use the computer at all.

 

Noise -get him headphones. Your stress will go down quite a bit.

 

He's 9 y.o, he's going to outgrow Minecraft eventually.  He'll move on to something else that needs regulating as well, but you'll cross that bridge when you get to it.

 

Your views aren't extreme at all.  I struggle to help ds, who doesn't want to be helped, to get off the computer and go use his brain some other way.  He gets hyper focused to some extent. Regulating screen time is a problem with my kids (and to a lesser extent with dh and me as well).  Obviously your son is experiencing the same thing to a much greater extent. Yes, there is something about the game that is very engaging and stimulating. It plugs right in to his brain. 

 

The best solution might be to simply remove the game. Which I imagine could be mighty upsetting. Honestly, you might get some good advice in the special needs forum! The ladies there have a wealth of information, as well as been-there, done-that sympathy.

 

I'm not happy at all with how the internet, television, digital games and everything have taken over our whole lives, particularly our children's lives. There are unforeseen consequences to this. We struggle along as best we can, though.


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Hahaha, my ten year old is HOOKED. It's the same as the OP. His life forever changed when he discovered minecraft. I can't say I like it, but we are at that point now that if I tell him to get off and do something else he just goes to a friends house and plays. I give up, lol. He's smart, does his school work (he is homeschooled now) so I am trying to approach it differently. I even did a search and it looks like Minecraft can be a good educational game because they are basically doing CAD. Look up CAD. I forget what it stands for, but basically it's computer engineering.

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I used to hear that Minecraft was just harmless fun, too, and also put in the proviso that the children played only on the home computer and not on-line with others (besides security issues, they become unhappy that things are going on in the Minecraft world while they're not logged in, and it makes them very distracted and agitated).

 

But is it harmless?

 

NOOOOOOOO!!!!!

 

My 10-year-old has been setting his alarm for 2 am and sneaking down in the night to watch videos about Minecraft, and to play the game.  Despite its friendly appearance of just something to create a world, it is terribly, terribly addicting, especially to a boy's brain and its biological design. 

 

You see, computer games stimulate a part of their brains that induce pleasure.  This is a different area than girls' brains are stimulated with they play computer games.

 

For us at the moment, we haven't removed Minecraft entirely.  Because the son is vehemently denying that he has been the person on the computer at 2 am, and we have no definitive proof as to who it was, we have simply put in a place a lot security barriers like having Minecraft on only my user name (with a unique password that only I know), and putting time limits on my son's use of the computer via the security settings of Windows 7.

 

If I had to do it all again, I wouldn't buy this game.  It really is taking up my children's head space when rather I'd like them to be creative in the real world.

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I used to hear that Minecraft was just harmless fun, too, and also put in the proviso that the children played only on the home computer and not on-line with others (besides security issues, they become unhappy that things are going on in the Minecraft world while they're not logged in, and it makes them very distracted and agitated).

 

But is it harmless?

 

NOOOOOOOO!!!!!

 

My 10-year-old has been setting his alarm for 2 am and sneaking down in the night to watch videos about Minecraft, and to play the game.  Despite its friendly appearance of just something to create a world, it is terribly, terribly addicting, especially to a boy's brain and its biological design. 

 

You see, computer games stimulate a part of their brains that induce pleasure.  This is a different area than girls' brains are stimulated with they play computer games.

 

For us at the moment, we haven't removed Minecraft entirely.  Because the son is vehemently denying that he has been the person on the computer at 2 am, and we have no definitive proof as to who it was, we have simply put in a place a lot security barriers like having Minecraft on only my user name (with a unique password that only I know), and putting time limits on my son's use of the computer via the security settings of Windows 7.

 

If I had to do it all again, I wouldn't buy this game.  It really is taking up my children's head space when rather I'd like them to be creative in the real world.

 

well... lets replace game/minecraft with books adn that was me at 10. sneaking under the covers, hiding the book under my mattress and having a flashlight at night with scarfs along the crack of the door so my parents couldnt see the light.

 

yeah  i was totally addicted to books. at 8 during summer holidays my dd has spent the whole night reading. 

 

nowadays she is not allowed to read a favourite book or new book at bedtime. it wakes her up. 


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Well my daughter is not addicted to Minecraft, but i only let her play if her homework is complete and her school gradesare above  90%.

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My sons all love Minecraft, but they have a limit of 1 hour a day mon-fri for the older two and 40 min a day for the youngest one.  They get a little longer on Saturday if they have done their chores well during  the week and if we do not have anything fun planned for the day. They do not get any Minecraft on Sunday.   I think it has good points and bad points.  Yes it is very adictive to some people.  So are books, tv, food, and lots of other things.  
Sometimes we also use Minecraft to suppliment what we are working on in some of our homeschool subjects.  We are planning on doing several of the ideas from this blog http://amylandisman.com/2013/10/learning-with-minecraft/

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Find a way to get involved in your kids life ;-)

"I wanted him to understand that too much gaming was unhealthy and that I wasn’t just being a mean parent. So we Googled what doctors and educators said about it. I wanted him to desire to eat better, so we researched how eating clean could better his gaming. I wanted him to be physically active, so we designed a reward program for playing sports. The list goes on and on, but I think you get the idea. " excerpt from Minecraft Game Addicts Book

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I am glad to know that i am not alone.  My 11 Year old Son is also addicted to Minecraft or any video game for that matter.  He has lost all privledges and does not care.  He cannot wait until he leaves to walk to the bus in the morning so that he can begin playing and I have caught him several times sneaking around the house in the middle of the night looking for his "school issued" laptop so that he can play.  After the 2nd time I caught him playing at 2-3 am after I am fast asleep, I have began making him give me his laptop to charge in my bedroom at night.  The first night, he tried sneaking in my room and got caught, then I began to lock my bedroom door and again I woke up to him trying to get into my room.  I am at wits end and I do not know what to do.  He has no care in the world and from being  a straight A student, his grades are dropping from rushing to get his work done or not doing it at all so he can pretend he is studying on his laptop in reality he is sneaking to play!  How can I enforce a no electronic policy when all of his assignments and homework is done online.  I am really frustrated and lost!  How can you punish a child that has lost everything and has even said " I dont care about getting in trouble, at least I can play until I get caught".  I wish I had an answer to your problem, but I am in the same boat......

 

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How our family approaches this: 

 

-I find it best just to have a set time (30 min/day total) for any kind of electronic/screen game they choose.
-Have a physical timer (we use a kitchen timer). Monitor this and don’t let them go over too much (there can be a short grace period). Once the time is over, hover over them and be ready to turn it off yourself (but I think it’s best that they turn it off).
-Be consistent (don’t give 5 hours one day, and one hour the next day). Keep the time the same for everyday including weekends. It would be even better if the same time of day was used (but I don’t do this).
-If the kids fuss at the end of their time, tell them they will lose the next day’s gaming privilege if they continue.
-At the beginning of the session, remind them that they need to be grateful for the privilege especially after time is up. Otherwise, they will lose the privilege. I say they need to “be happy at the end of the session that they had the opportunity to play.”

 

I do like the token and no-electronic-Sundays ideas.

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Hello. My name is Maddie, and I am a Minecraft addict....

I know this website is for moms and stuff, but I just made an account to  tell moms and dads this..

I have been playing since September 2012 and I cant stop...

I probably have seen my friends about 30 times that whole year....

But I skype chat with others ALOTTT....

I need help.... you say they love minecraft? It only gets worse... tonight I just asked my mom to help me out with my addiction to the internet.

But hey, this is just me.

Go ahead, let your kids have as mcuh fun as they want, but PLEASE give them stuffs like certain times to play, limits and restrictions.

And another thing,  all the people arent "nice" in minecraft.

I've had people talk SO MUCH CRAP and curse, and spam.

Minecraft is somuch fun, but I think I need to control my time.. I just really wanted to get tat out.

I dont mean to scare you with this post, but please limit ur kids time!!!!!

It help :bgbounce

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Yea thats kinda like me, but I get scared if my mom gets me in trouble. :(

You should take his computer away

Lock him in his room

Confiscate his electronics...

Do something!!

Its only gonna get worse D:

Take it from me, I played minecraft for 12 hours today.

I forgot to eat because of it!!

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Minecraft... yep.. @ my house too!... my 12 yr plays other games.. but i must admit.. what i as a parent like about Minecraft is the music... yep.. my son likes for us to listen to the Minecraft parodies on youtube... I like it because its not derogatory or inappropriate for children. Yes they sample popular music but the lyrics are game related. I feel good that we can relate to this together...

My son rushes to the games.. and we too insist his school work and room are completed and accurate before indulging...

My son is not the 'social' type.. doesn't go out to play like we did.. I'd prefer he did.. however it is now the winter and i'd rather he be inside reading a book.. but there is a compromise.. lol.. sooo .. \

 

Hey, maybe our sons are playing together...!!

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My son is 13 and he is totally addicted.  However, he's no doing good in school and won't do his chores until I force him to.  I don't like forcing him to do things he's supposed to do but because of Minecraft it has become that way. And he's also becoming very disrespectful because he wants to be on Minecraft for all his waking hours.  I don't mind him playing but after 5 hours straight  I feel that that is enough.  He will barely even stop to eat.  I even have to force him to eat!  He's not in sports or music or any extracurricular activities.  Any suggestions.

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Wow!  Your post sounds just like what is happening in my home.  I am going to get a timer like the other person suggested.  It's very difficult because my husband cares one day but the next day lets him to whatever he wants.  I too am frustrated!

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Everyone's suggestions have been so helpful!  I feel so relieved to see that my son is being "normal".  But I need to help him to be balanced.  I am going to implement many of the suggestions.  I am going right now to the store to buy a kitchen timer!  Thank you everyone, especially the young Mincrafters who are addicted themselves.  I appreciate your honesty!

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My 10yo is also obsessed with Minecraft and has a real hard time getting off. He throws tantrums. I am really worried about what it is doing to his personality and think I might get rid of it completely. This alone will be a very hard task!

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ok - update since June 2013. So, my daughter, 12 year old was not doing her homework and saying she did so she could play MC, then, at times she was supposed to be writing a paper on the computer and i would catch her playing.  So, when she got very bad grades (straight A student to C's) we took the MC away from her all summer long, and then she got a great report card all A's in October 2013, so, i allowed her to play MC (1 hour/day)...well, bad habits soon followed.  And the grades plummeted, again saying she finished her homework. She wrote a letter stating why she knows that she she needs to do her homework and can do better but that the games are the "Devil's Temptation!"  Wow!  So, nonetheless, MC is gone again...not to be seen till maybe summer if at all!  I also noticed that she had an email from someone she met on MC who she doesn't know...that is so scary...  So, no more MC again, blocked it from the kids computers.  I know she needs to learn to resist the temptations...but the kids are just at a very vulnerable age and it is similar to if you are on a diet, you don't sit in a room with cake.

I am sure that this is just another "learning moment".

Good luck all but be aware...

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.....watching this thread with great interest....this is one of those issues that all that babywearing, co sleeping, breastfeeding, gentle discipline and what not, did not prepare me for. I want to live consensually with my kids, but im scared of how addictive  these games can become.... what did kids do before computer games and tv? (in my childhood it was tv, but there was only one tv, and you didnt use it to connect with friends or do homework)

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What did they do before? Helped with chores, played outside, played with toys, crafted their own toys.

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 what did kids do before computer games and tv? (in my childhood it was tv, but there was only one tv, and you didnt use it to connect with friends or do homework)

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I mostly read (didn't have a tv.) I'm not sure that that is necessarily healthier. It's equally sedentary and doesn't allow any opportunity to interact with others like Minecraft does. It's passive since you are just absorbing another's creation...

 

Personally, I don't think the problem is Minecraft but that kids are being required to go to school all day and do homework in their "free" time. They are just over scheduled. Even if a home schooled kid plays Minecraft for hours every day, he still has plenty of time to engage in physical activity, get enough sleep, and do other things with other people.


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Today while I tended a fussy sick baby the older two went outside of their own accord and built "wooden tools" with sticks and duct tape, all minecraft inspired no doubt. Their uncle set up a server on his computer so they can play with him about once a week online. Last week I went on minecraft myself to build a house I had in mind as a possible real world design, so I could virtually walk through it.

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Minecraft 9yr old DD here. She loooooves creative mode, builds farms, railroads, huge buildings with gardens on each floor ... very very creative. She can only do multiplayer with people we know (eg her cousin) as she's playing only on her tablet.

DH and I have both always really enjoyed video games. As long as there is balance ... school, friends, reading, family, creativity, exercise ... it's fine. But she is required to get portions of the day done before playing - clean her room, set table, whatever. It's motivating for her. The thing I like about Minecraft is the depth, and the great spatial reasoning. Talking about volume in math? Multiplication? It all applies.

We went to a chess tournament this winter where between matches, all the older kids were playing together on a server. Sitting together, talking, collaborating, and having fun.

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