My daughter is 14, she said she has played it here and there. I have NEVER seen her on it at all. Instagram, Twitter, and some other site (that I can't think of right now- maybe Tumblr?) are where she is mostly. My two best friends' kids 9,8, and 6 are addicted, the 5 and 4 year olds are not into it yet (they are sisters of the 9 year old). Any time we get together, this is all they do- at restaurants, parties, no matter where we are. The nine year old hat a FIT when we were in a place where she couldn't get wifi (not sure why you need it, but I guess she did).
The parents of the 8 and 6 year old think it's cute. They keep saying "this is the new play date". I feel like the 6 year old is already socially awkward, and way too young for this (but is very big on doing everything his big brother does). They do other things, thankfully (mom throws them into every sport imaginable), but to me, it seems a bit excessive. The reason I worry is because I see how excessive kids are with the net as they get older (adults as well, obviously).
I believe that with all behaviors, everyone has a different personality; children and adults alike. For example, if I decide to have some Oreo cookies, and I take the entire package out and have it in front of me, I can stop at 2 or three. My daughter and my husband cannot. When she was little, if there was a huge spread of dessert at a holiday occasion, she felt it was okay to just keep going. The same with television, internet, staying up late on weekends and vacations, and any other thing she enjoys. This is not a new teen-age behavior. She NEEDS limits. I do not consider myself very strict with her, I try very hard (especially at age 14) to discuss 'doing the right thing'. I go to bed very early; I tell her "I am a grown up, my mom does not set my bed time, yet I still choose on some nights to go to sleep at 9:30. I pick my battles.
I also do agree that too much regulation and limits can bite you in the butt later on. Another friend of mine (with a 13 year old) is painfully strict with her. As strict as she has been with her, she too, would want to devour the dessert table if given the chance. My daughter tells me about the 'little' rebellious things she sees her doing. Right now, they are little things, but very soon, they will both be entering the world of High School, where their ability to self-regulate will be tested daily, in many ways.
Some kids need more limits than others. Some kids can be told "ok honey, no more Minecraft for today", others will pitch a full-on fit. Same with adults.
So, my oldest got a shovel out a dug a hole in the yard. He actually found a pile of coal. He was filthy, but thrilled. MC IRL FTW.
We don't want to control kids by locking the computer down but just notice what they do and how much of it.
Anyways, we did some research and built this site, which is specifically made for parents whose kids play minecraft game.
So we created this application and started to use on our own kids PC and it worked great.
Now we can see how much and when do they play Minecraft.
We recommend it for any parents out there who would like to track this game usage.
Thanks for reading...
Mountain mama to two great kids and two great grown-ups
It's a laptop, you could restrict it's use to the kitchen table or somewhere you can monitor him easily. Does he need internet for his homework? The wifi password to your router could be changed so that he has to plug the laptop into the wall (hopefully in a more public location of the house) to get internet.
As for helping them build their own will for healthy screen time, I have noticed that my 13 year old is doing this on his own. He knows how tempting his iPod is, so when he's studying, he puts it away out of reach and out of sight of him. I think it will come.
@ndalal thank you for the application to help track their usage. Hopefully, as they see the time balloons they will become more aware of just how quickly time flies and see when they've met their time limit. At the same time, knowing a parent can log in and track their usage will further help them learn awareness and then hopefully self regulation. It should provide us as the parents an opportunity to discuss their usage, over usage, and lead to discussions on their improvement or their trouble with self regulating.
Unfortunately, when it gets to the point of blatant lying, like my homework is done when it's not, the ramifications need to fit the crime. They are lying in order to get more game time and I don't think they should continue having access to the game until they learn the seriousness of their actions. In this case, I need a way to lock out the game. @Mummoth suggested changing the minecraft password and that could work since it would not be turning it on and off each day; rather, they would lose access for a week or even more.
Hopefully with tracking their usage and the ability to stop their access at times, this game can be fun and useful rather than an all consuming addiction.
Last edited by Frustratedparent; 12-17-2014 at 10:44 PM.
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