I have a good friends who has an eleven year old daughter. Recently she related to me about an argument she had with her daughter concerning throngs. Daughter became very upset when she was not allowed to wear thongs. I asked myself how I would feel if I had an eleven year old daughter who wanted to wear throngs. I think I would say no also. I think that kind of underwear is not appropriate for a eleven year old girl. My mother would roll over in her grave, if I asked to wear throngs at that age!! I should have made this a poll, but everyone can answer, yes or no, depending on your feelings.
I would be okay with it if it wasn't meant to be visible.
I remember when my mother was not okay with me getting bikini-cut underwear when I was that age. It wasn't about anyone but me seeing it, it was a sensory thing. I wear thong now because they are comfortable to me. I am single and not seeing anyone and not going for the whale tail look. All that extra fabric feels bunchy.
(I have 14 year old. She prefers bunchy.)
I guess it really depends on the child and the reason, but I wouldn't uniformly ban them.
I would ask her why she likes that style of underwear, and then unless her answer shocked me, I'd get them. If the answer was shocking, the underwear isn't the problem, but it's good to get a discussion going.
My initial thought was no way! because I can't fathom them being comfortable and I have always considered thongs as a more adult style. DDs prefer briefs, and I wear boy shorts, so we lean in the direction of more fabric Now that I read through the other replies, though, if it was a comfort thing, I would reconsider. I hadn't thought of the leotard issue. If it was for a reason other than comfort, then no.
Mom "D" to DD1 "Z" (14) and DD2 "I" (11) DH "M"
My nieces both have worn them for a couple years starting at about 15 and 13ish. I know the older one started and the younger followed about a year later. They are almost 18 and 14 now. I think the older one started because she is really tiny (4'8" ) and couldn't find any other style that fit but she felt was her "age". Then she liked them because she wears most things pretty tight ( as does her sister, it's the style where they live) and there are no panty lines. My sister goes with it.
Part of me goes "ohmygoodnesshellllllno". But then the rational part of me knows I wear thongs because I hate the bunched up feeling from regular underwear, no matter what kind I buy. My thongs aren't for sexy, they are because otherwise I'd be picking my butt all day.
Your reply was a reminder to me, of the time my mother allowed me to go from what I will call, little girls cotton underwear, to nylon panties, panties that I thought were Big Girl panties. I was so proud that I had somehow passed an invisible line, from little girl to big girl. I can even recall the brand of underwear it was, Vanity Fair full briefs. I now realize that style of underwear for today's youth, in their eyes is frowned upon. Society changes, and that's where I think we are, when we talk about thongs. What was frowned upon in the past, is accepted today.
At home amongst the redwoods with my husband and my son, born 7/5/11 Instant CNM, just add !
huh? OP i dont get your reply. are you saying you changed your mind and now will allow thongs?
considering i got dd her first bra at 4 (she LOVED it and still remembers it) i see the thong the same way. how will she know if its comfortable or not if she doesnt try it.
OP doesn't have a daughter; her friend does...